I don't know if this is the right forum so please tell me if I would be better in another one.
I am getting really worried about my mental health. I have always been anxious and self critical but since giving birth it's become really bad. Ds is 7 months old and I love him more than anything. However I keep replaying his birth in my head - induction, drip, epidural, after a long time fully dilated then forceps. I keep beating myself up and telling myself I was weak for having the epidural - even though I would never ever judge anybody else for having one - plenty of my friends have had them. I cry about the birth most days and how crap I was. I know that's stupid.
I have become addicted to the internet. I look at these positive birth Instagram feeds and feel so bitter and angry.
I hate myself for being like this and I have started to really hate myself and think I'm a crap mum. I find myself grinding my teeth all the time and talking to myself. My neck and shoulders are so tense.
I have had a debrief which was helpful and I know intellectually I've done nothing wrong but there is this horrible voice in my head telling me I'm weak and pathetic. The midwife said I wasn't coping with the pain - I keep hearing her say that even though I don't think she meant it unkindly. I was in utter agony at only 3 cm I feel I don't deserve my baby.
I hate myself and want to disappear. Please help.
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Blue2309 · 09/07/2019 22:15
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