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Is this prolapse? Feel suicidal.

(48 Posts)
Dimestorediamond Tue 28-Mar-17 23:32:31

I gave birth to my second child last week and within a few days became aware of something stringy hanging down from my vagina, sort of like a thick grayish tampon string. It has got progressively worse to the point that it looks like a thick piece of tissue which tapers to a string and hangs about 3 inches below my vaginal opening. My gp was very dismissive and said to do pelvic floor exercises for 6 months but I can't bond with my baby and would probably have just ended it by now if it wasn't for my older child. Is this a prolapse or something else? I just feel so alone.

kineticmagnetic Tue 28-Mar-17 23:35:55

You need to go back to your gp or talk to your health visitor. Please don't try work things out alone, whatever is going on with your body can be fixed, you need to concentrate on your emotions. Can you speak to family/your partner?

BoboChic Tue 28-Mar-17 23:36:52

You need to talk to your community midwife about this rather than your GP. Please call her tomorrow.

GraceGrape Tue 28-Mar-17 23:37:58

Definitely either your community midwife or can you speak to the Labour Ward midwives as it is so soon after delivery?

OutToGetYou Tue 28-Mar-17 23:38:11

Call 111 and ask someone who can help you to work out what to do.

31weeksgone Tue 28-Mar-17 23:41:02

I didn't want to read and run, I just wanted to share my experience to see if it helped at all. I gave birth to my daughter 16 months ago, and I had an awful episiotomy and ventouse delivery. Anyway, I didn't prolapse, but I did have 3rd degree tear. My stitches tore and I was described as "gaping" by the midwife. To cut a long story short though, it felt like the end of the world and I couldn't bond with baby, I was distraught and convinced I'd never live a normal life again. I felt like I would never get better. BUT!!! About 6 months later, it finally healed. 16 months on, basically back to normal down there. Please go and speak to different gp or health visitor or even phone up a midwife on your ward, should have a discharge number? and explain. Some GP's aren't very sympathetic or helpful, others are wonderful. Please keep on going. One day it'll all be an (awful) memory, but a memory none the less and you'll have a beautiful child from it. Take care. Xx flowers

AssassinatedBeauty Tue 28-Mar-17 23:41:47

I don't know what it is, it doesn't sound like a prolapse from my limited lay persons knowledge though. It sounds more like retained placental tissue to me, but I'm really not an expert.

I'm worried that you're feeling so low and that the GP was so dismissive. Can you speak to your health visitor and tell them about it? Can you speak to your partner and ask them to help you get it sorted out? As it's only been a week or so i think the midwives would still want to know about anything unusual like this, so maybe phone them as well.

Please also tell them about how you're feeling, as feeding suicidal is beyond the usual baby blues. They can help you with that as well as the physical issues.

Dimestorediamond Tue 28-Mar-17 23:41:49

I contacted my community midwife and she is coming out tomorrow to take a look. I just feel so scared and desperate. I had a difficult pregnancy and thought it would be better after the birth but I really wish I hadn't got pregnant again in the first place.

AssassinatedBeauty Tue 28-Mar-17 23:44:00

Can you say what's scaring you? Are you worried about having complications from the birth, or is it more about how you feel towards the baby?

myoriginal3 Tue 28-Mar-17 23:47:34

I'm guessing she is scared about what is going on down there.

TupperwareTat Tue 28-Mar-17 23:50:53

I hope tomorrow goes ok.
Please show her this thread tomorrow, let her know how you are feeling.
Things will get better.
We are all here for you too flowers

kineticmagnetic Tue 28-Mar-17 23:53:07

There is nothing wrong with being scared, suddenly having another person depend on you while you're body is going through so much is a huge deal. Please, please speak about how you are feeling as well as your physical problems though flowers

Dimestorediamond Tue 28-Mar-17 23:59:24

I will talk to her about my feelings about it all. I just feel so cheated and like I have ruined things for my DD since I'm not even supposed to pick her up now.

Joffmognum Wed 29-Mar-17 00:04:12

I promise that it will get better, you will bond with your baby and everything will be okay. Don't be afraid to seek help for the PND. Is there anything family or a partner can do take things easier? Like cleaning, cooking for you, taking the children so you can nap? If you're breastfeeding I'd recommend continuing, it's linked to faster PND recovery rates due to the endorphins that are released and your baby crying less from colic, this is once any painful period is over. Tell your midwife about your depression. Tell her you have suicidal thoughts. Do what you can to help yourself flowers

Just remember that this will pass. It will be easier if you ask for help, but will go either way. I've been clinically depressed before, does it feel like you'll never be happy again? That's your mental illness lying to you. Please be kind to yourself and do all you can for yourself and your new baby flowers

AssassinatedBeauty Wed 29-Mar-17 00:07:02

You haven't ruined anything, nothing that happens during birth is in anyone's control, no one is to blame.

Do you have someone with you at the moment - DP or family? If you do, they can pass you your DD and you can hold her as much as you want to.

Dimestorediamond Wed 29-Mar-17 00:14:22

DD is my older child but was still the baby until DS came along. My parents are not nearby and I feel very isolated.

myoriginal3 Wed 29-Mar-17 00:19:09

Love. Get your fandango sorted out first. Then you can give all your attention to baby. But your priority tomorrow has to be you. There is no way I could have bonded with my baby if I was afraid my nether regions were about to fall out of me. Get looked after medically and you will be fine I would wager.

7Days Wed 29-Mar-17 00:20:13

It does sound like you have pnd. Its horrendous but it will lift. I had a hotrendous birth a few years ago. My undercarriage was in shreds and I had no control over bowels. All those things are massively massively better now.
What I am saying is that physical stuff is often very fixable.
Ring the midwife first thing and tell her you have gone beyond baby blues. They can help, and show which direction to look for the light at the end of the tunnel.
Good luck. You will bond with your baby and you will recover psychologically and physically

Hberries Wed 29-Mar-17 00:23:32

I had that. It freaked me out at the time but it fell off the day before my gynae appointment. No idea what it was but the gynaecologist said it all looked fine.

myoriginal3 Wed 29-Mar-17 00:25:21

With all due respect, how the Fuck is she going to get something dangling three inches outside her back?
Pnd my arse.

myoriginal3 Wed 29-Mar-17 00:27:35

Sweet divine mother. I'm so glad I had a section.

AssassinatedBeauty Wed 29-Mar-17 00:29:04

Is there any chance your parents could come and stay nearby for a few days to help you out?

It's hard with an older one when you have a new baby. I had a c section with my DS2 which meant I couldn't have my older one climbing on me, or me picking them up for a good long while. You do get used to it, its a strange thing. I was always a bit on tenterhooks as DS1 was prone to flinging himself at me for energetic hugs, I had to fend him off whilst c section scar was still sore. They do get used to it and you find other ways of giving the same affection.

Dimestorediamond Wed 29-Mar-17 00:30:20

I keep hoping it is something fixable to do with my stiches or retained placenta or something but deep down I'm sure it's a prolapse and I'm going to have to put up with it for a long time. The thought of it makes me feel sick.

myoriginal3 Wed 29-Mar-17 00:32:11

Settle until you are seen tomorrow pet.

Dimestorediamond Wed 29-Mar-17 00:32:45

My mum did stay for a few days which helped but she has other commitments to get back for.

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