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Forceps and episiotomy is this after pain normal?

(15 Posts)
buttershy Sun 07-Aug-16 18:17:10

Hi all,

I had my lovely baby two weeks ago at 37wks weighing 6lbs 13. I had a very fast labour and due to heart decels when pushing I was given an episiotomy and forceps to get her out.

In hospital I developed an EXTREME pain in my lower back coxcyx area that meant sitting up, getting out of bed and sitting down etc was very very painful. I was eventually told this was normal for forceps delivery and that the coxcyx dips out of the way during labour to allow the pelvis to open so some bruising is to be expected. I couldn't quite believe this was normal especially as I've never heard anyone complain of this sort of pain post labour but I accepted it. A few days after being discharged the pain was still there and with my husband due to go back to work I went to the dr as I was physically unable to get myself out of a chair or bath etc. The dr gave me diclofenic pain killer and reassured me all was well but I was black and blue down there and that the pain was just bruising. It is gradually getting a little better but is still there..is this normal?

Additionally...after having no stitch pain whatsoever a week after baby was born I started getting the awful stinging when peeing, a funny smell and real bad pain just moving about so my midwife examined me pulled a funny face and said get to the Dr's. The dr said my stitches were infected and gave me a course of antibiotics which I finish tomorrow and I have to go back to see him to see if I will need restitching or the open wound packing to prevent it healing over a whole which is filled with bacteria and infected. This has gradually got less painful over the week but I do notice some mucus when I wipe which I presume is from the infection site. I'm now suddenly also having problems pooing. Thankfully I'd been able to do this normally with no problems but suddenly it hurts like hell and there is a small amount of fresh blood when I wipe after.

If anyone can share whether this is normal or not please do..I think part of the problem is I don't really know exactly what they did and haven't had a look down there myself. Care wise i am just keeping the area clean and dry. Airing when possible too. The experience is so horrible and I just can't believe this pain can be normal. I'd go through my pain relief free birth ten times over this recovery pain sad

Thanks X

BendydickCuminsnatch Sun 07-Aug-16 18:21:33

Oh wow! I had forceps and that does not sound familiar to me at all. You poor thing!

I'd definitely go back to the doctor/midwives and stress your concerns!

BendydickCuminsnatch Sun 07-Aug-16 18:22:53

By the way I had a v fast labour and forceps due to heart decels too! Bless you flowers

buttershy Sun 07-Aug-16 18:24:33

Thank you smile I know everyone's experience will vary but I don't know if anyone who was still house bound and in so much pain 2 weeks after delivery - it's not like I had a terrible tear or a c-section! X

BendydickCuminsnatch Sun 07-Aug-16 18:27:48

Mm yes. I had a 3c tear and episiotomy and my recovery was nowhere near as painful as yours sounds (so sorry to say that!!). Get thee to the docs tomorrow (or them to you). I did have a year of physio though!

buttershy Sun 07-Aug-16 18:32:01

Do you mind me asking what the physio was for? Did it help? I have the Dr's tomorrow morning. Partly hoping she says all is well but also if things aren't I know I need to put my big girl pants on and deal with it and not put up with pain long term. Better it get sorted sooner X

gubbinsy Sun 07-Aug-16 18:33:04

I did have the coccyx pain- was excruciating for a few days. Felt both my labours all in back - first was back to back and turned. Not sure if any of that led to the pain. Def sounds like you need to see dr again

SarahJinx Sun 07-Aug-16 18:34:30

My episiotomy stitches got infected and you're having the exact same symptoms as I did. Iirc I needed three courses of ab's and they must be the right ones to clear it up (mine was flucox or flux something). I think the mw's or your go should be referring you either back to the labour ward or to gynae for restitching if that does become necessary but do discuss with your midwife. I don't know anything about the back pain but I think epidural can do something weird to backs, if you had one?

My scar healed in the end, it was very painful and I remember thinking that bf'ing a newborn for hours on end wasn't helping! Ask for help, took me ages to feel normal again and ruined my first few weeks with ds which lead to pnd. Sorry if that sounds a bit scaremongery I would always advise screaming for help these days rather than hoping it goes away is all x

Flanderspigeonmurderer Sun 07-Aug-16 18:42:52

I had a 3rd degree tear and episiotomy with my forceps birth. My stitches were the most painful. They throbbed a lot for the first week or so then felt sore if I sat down in a particular way or overdid it with a long walk. They never got infected. I just had paracetamol and ibuprofen for the pain.
If you're in any doubt then see your doctor, better not to just live with it.

BendydickCuminsnatch Sun 07-Aug-16 18:51:05

buttershy physio was for incontinence shock DS was 8lb10 and labour was less than 40 mins so he did a lot of damage. We moved house out of the area when he was 7 weeks old so I didn't get my 12 week tear check up appointment and things went from there. Seems to be all better now but definitely having a section next time!

Don't mind you asking, I could talk labour 24/7.

ElspethFlashman Sun 07-Aug-16 18:51:14

Yeah, I had similar I'm afraid. Two courses of antibiotics here. And even then there was something that I could feel when I sat down, like I was sitting on a pebble. Turns out my scar had granulated and become raised on the inside, and I had to get it smoothed down with silver nitrate. Which was stingy but not too horrendous. But at that stage this had been dragging on for about six weeks and I was quite weepy by then. Luckily all was perfect Afterwards and my fanjo is a thing of beauty now. grin

Oh and the bum thing is an anal fissure. It heals by itself but takes a couple of weeks if not longer. You can help by taking lactose to help the poo slide past painlessly.

buttershy Sun 07-Aug-16 18:56:14

Elspethflashman good job you know what you're on about thank you glad to know what it is now and I have lactulose here at home from pregnancy so will start that again smile let's hope the rest heals well with the help of the dr tomorrow X

buttershy Sun 07-Aug-16 18:57:00

Bless you I read that is so common but sooooo unpleasant for you. Glad you are back to normal now xxx

BendydickCuminsnatch Sun 07-Aug-16 19:01:14

Oh yes I had the granulation/silver nitrate and anal fissure too. This thread is reminding me of all these joys, haha! What a glam business it is.

And congratulations on your bundle OP flowers

ElspethFlashman Sun 07-Aug-16 19:08:44

Anal fissures are soooo common. Needless to say I had one of those too. Oh and the most horrific pain in my urethra for a good week after the catherisation. It's all coming back to me.

No wonder I was weepy! It was definitely worse than childbirth, those weeks afterwards. Made everything so much more distressing than it needed to be. They don't tell you half the shit you'll go through in antenatal classes!

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