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Postnatal health

Feeling lonely and anxious

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user1466193551 · 17/06/2016 21:17

Hi,
Didn't really know where to turn was hoping posting on here might give me some insight/relief!
I've been feeling increasingly lonely since giving birth to my son end of January.
At first I put the lack of going out etc down to having such a small child and not wanting to take him out!
I live away from my family and don't have many friends.. Even less it seems since giving birth! I am with the father but he's back at work now and is rubbish at communication (he's a great dad just not the most communicative of people!)
I keep trying to go to mother and baby things but my baby doesn't sleep well.. He's up every hour or 2 to feed so I find myself very tired in the morning and struggle to get out early (seems most classes are in the am)
A few years ago I used to suffer with anxiety attacks.. I have them mostly under control but find myself quite shakey recently guess it's the nerves of not really knowing what I'm doing!!
I know this post sounds really pathetic/needy probably why I feel the need to turn here rather than to people I know..
I just don't know what to do with myself feel increasingly lonely and sad, and the more I feel like this the less confident I am to get out there and do something about it!! I'm really not confident at all with meeting people.
guess I'm after some tips or reassurance from others that it gets better?? Or maybe a kick up the arse!
Thanks in advance

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Summer23 · 17/06/2016 21:28

Definitely no kick up the arse from me. Be kind to yourself, you've not long had a baby! Don't even think about rushing to try to get to a baby class at this point in the morning after a broken nights sleep. That will not help the stress levels and at this point, the hormones are still all over the place so that doesn't help either. You're needing to reconnect with people though as it's nice to have some adult company. Is there a yoga or swimming class you could do at a time that suits you, with baby?

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RoseDeGambrinus · 17/06/2016 21:39

No useful advice from me but a hug and bump for someone more constructive!

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ppandj · 17/06/2016 21:53

Flowersfor you. I just wanted to say that I felt/still sometimes feel lonely as a new mum. My DS is now 14mo and it comes in waves, a few weeks good then a few weeks lonely. I can't really advise but just thought it might help to know you aren't alone in feeling lonely!

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ppandj · 17/06/2016 21:56

Also, the days when I do go out and get a lot done I feel much better! Do you enjoy walking? I use my fitness pal to track my steps and set myself a goal so I feel like I have achieved something.

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