Born in June - waiting on the last few!

[bumperlicious]

new thread, sorry for the unimaginative title!

[bumperlicious]

ahh linked the wrong thrwad - d'oh! hope you find us!

[bumperlicious]

TA, if you need to email to talk then don't hesitate, its bumperlicious.mn @ hotmail . co . uk. sometimes things can be a bit public on here so do email if you are struggling. probably won't be able to offer advice as its like the blind leading the blind! but i can empathise and put my psychology degrees to goo use!

[justbeme]

Morning!
TA Im soo sorry your having a crap time at the moment - but don't feel that its only you - I think alot of new mums go through this - Your emotions are like a roller coaster at the moment High, low, lower etc(!) and your body etc is prob in shock as well.
I remember when my DD was born the crying wore me down, I think going out into the garden (knowing she was safe in her seat) and getting some air helped. There is a very fine line between actually doing something you'll regret and stopping - if truth be known I think alot of Mums have been there but wont admit - but at least you know that you're near the line and your HV should be able to help you. Let us know how you get on. By the way, babies are very clued up and know that if they cry they get picked up, so dont always rush to your LO side. (easier said than done i know sometimes). I dont know if any of thats helped, but sometimes knowing that your not the only "mad" one is good to know!!!!

[daisyandbabybootoo]

LOL...over a month to fill up a thread.....a far cry from a new one every three days

TA...sorry you're feeling so crap. These feelings are awful, but are very very common. They don't mean you're a bad mother, just that you are struggling emotionally due to all the hormonal changes that are going on, added to sleep deprivation and frustration at not being able to settle your baby. Hopefully your HV will be able to help you out....please tell her exactly how you've been feeling.

I sometimes sit and look at DD and feel absolutely nothing, then she smiles at me (I got lots at 2:15 this morning) and my heart just melts. I know that a lot of how I feel stems from the depression, but like Lilkel, having had PND before, I know it will get better.

Big {{{{{hugs}}}}}} for you, its not nice feeling like this, but try to keep focussed on the good times, and be rest assured that you it will come together and you'll come out of it smiling

Like bumper said, if you need to chat, i'm at daisybump at yahoo dot co dot uk.

[Jamantha]

hi Bumper - see you pre-empted the closing of 1st thread. I didn't realise until I'd posted to old one though, oops.

Hoping for a "good" day today. She had me awake from 4.20 until 6 this morning alternately feeding and napping for a few minutes each at a time. The first few times she dozed off I tried to put her back in her basket and 2 minutes later she was awake chomping for more nosh, so in the end I let her feed and nap in my arms, which meant of course that I couldn't sleep. And half way through we had one of the pooiest nappies you can imagine to deal with as well, so I wasn't best pleased. She is still asleep now though

[bumperlicious]

hope its a good one for you jamantha. i think its going to be another bad one. dd is in pain from her wind but she is a little more settled when she is asleep in my arms - hence the crap typing! bless her, it's not her fault (as dh keeps telling me when i am ready to crack) she is just in pain. but not going to get much done. just realised i don't think i've cleaned my teeth since yesterday morning.

anyone want to make me a cuppa? I'm trapped in bed by a baby!

[lilKelBel]

Oh wind. What horrible stuff. S seems to be calm for the moment but lord alive, when she's got an 'attack' of it, she really turns purple with the pain! A couple of times I've given her a little water or offered her a feed even if it's not been 3 hours since her last one - and she's gulped it down! Which makes me think, perhaps she's just starving when she's screaming like that and not really that windy at all?

The mysteries of life, hmm...

[bumperlicious]

We've thought that too and it's really been a dirty nappy . But this this is definately wind, her mouth goes into too this "ooh" shape Ok, going to try putting her in her basket...

[bumperlicious]

Did your come with an instructional manual? Coz mine didn't! Maybe I should write to the manufacturer and complain...Oh yeah, that would be me!

[foxybrown]

you can run but you can't hide from me...

Morning all! I do feel for you all, its such a tough time at the moment the first 6 weeks are by far the hardest. I think at about 6 weeks they generally have a growth spurt, appetites soar and theres a let up in things, so hang on in there - you are all nearly there! (at the risk of coming across as a Netmum )

Best not give Bumper chocolate biscuits, Lilkel - stick to party rings (massive sugar hit!) - chocolate gives them wind! Mine just had to learn to live with it though

Righto, love to everyone, I'm off xxxxx

[foxybrown]

have a look around for one of those battery powered swings, see if you can get a cheap second hand one - the movement is meant to help with wind.

[bumperlicious]

Chocolate gives them wind? Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

[daisyandbabybootoo]

did i tell you what my cleve girl did yesterday?

i'd laid her coat in the pram, put her on top of it, then nipped to the loo. when i came back she'd wriggled about so much that she'd managed to get her arm into the sleeve by herself

bumper...don't despair, chocolate doesn't seem to affect babyboo at all.

Foxy, how are you today hun...i take it it's all gone quiet on the labour front?

[trendaverter]

thanks everyone for your support

Have to go, he's at it again....

[hollyandalicewillbedogtanian]

Oh TA, sorry you are feeling shitty. Don't worry though, you are not abnormal AT ALL! I quite often feel the urge to shout and scream at my los and occasionally think nasty thoughts about them. I certainly did at between 2 and 5 this morning when all William wanted to do was feed and again at 6.30 when Alice decided it was time to get up! You would only be abnormal if you acted on these thoughts. Speaking to the HV is a good idea, she will be able to give you some methods of coping and reassure you. Hope you are feeling a bit better now.xxx

[lilKelBel]

I've got one of those battery powered swings, and was just about to throw it out!! It takes up so much space in our tiny home...but I'm going to try using it more and hope it helps the wind. At this point I'd try crystals, goat sacrifices, anything really....

And tomorrow she is 6 weeks. !!!

It really is difficult to endure this part though. Shame really since this is the tiniest they will ever be and yet somehow everything they do makes you want to scream!

[foxybrown]

She can dress herself?! Result! one less job for you. Yipppeeeee!!!

Bumper - if you can be arsed, stick to a plain boring diet for a few days and see if that helps. No OJ, strawberries, tomatoes, chocolate, caffine (includes tea, cola etc), champagne (!), spice, garlic etc. If there's an improvement in two or three days, bring back things one at a time and see if you can pinpoint anything.

Plain chocolate is meant to be less problematic than milk I've heard on here! I can't function without tea and chocolate so am a fine example of one who does not take my own advice!

[hollyandalicewillbedogtanian]

I had one of those graco swings for dd and it was a godsend!

Anyone have any idea when it's going to be sunny and warm again? I wanna go out, but it looks like it's gonna rain!

[foxybrown]

psst, Bumper - I have to admit that the closest thing I got to an instruction manual was the Contented Baby Book. I started it at about 8 weeks with DS1 and it helped me. Not everyone's cup of tea so am reluctant to recommend it, all I'm saying was it helped me FWIW

[foxybrown]

put a raincoat on woman! You've got to get out!

[foxybrown]

Holly, does Catsuitgirl have a text buddy?

[lilKelBel]

what's the CB Book got to say about wind? I can't get it out!!!!!!

[hollyandalicewillbedogtanian]

It's not me I'm worried about, it's the small people! I forgot to buy a raincover for the pushchair! Ooops!

[Jamantha]

hate this weather h&a. I long to go out without the raincover on her "wheels". And to be confident to hanging washing outside.

[hollyandalicewillbedogtanian]

No, catsuitgirl wasn't around for the handing out of text buddies. Has anyone subscribed and is able to CAT her?