Advanced search

Would you like to be a member of our research panel? Join here - there's (nearly) always a great incentive offered for your views.

November 2012 - Next stage car seats and yet more teething

(1000 Posts)
StuntNun Sun 28-Jul-13 19:14:25

Previous thread:

ValiumQueen Mon 29-Jul-13 11:08:20

Sophia I think it is too soon. I thought it was 2 weeks recovery. What did they advise you? I guess they didn't. People think it is a little op but it is actually quite a significant one and you need to heal properly. Not just the skin but the bits inside. You do not want adhesions or internal bleeding x

ValiumQueen Mon 29-Jul-13 11:13:50

Stunt that was what the bloke in halfords told me on Saturday. I would be happy to use a booster older than 6 years due to it being the seatbelt holding them in.

We have thrown away all our old infant seats even though they were spotless as they are too old to even give away. I cut the straps and removed the covers so the tip rats would not be tempted to sell them on.

ValiumQueen Mon 29-Jul-13 11:15:58

I am in soft play heaven. Yes heaven as I only have the girls with me. Daddy has taken J into town so it is me and two happy screaming girls. Bliss! It is amazing the more kids you have, just having one less to deal with seems really easy smile

YellowWellies Mon 29-Jul-13 11:16:34

Stunt I'm getting that question a lot too! And the 'oh you've done ever so well' / 'given it a good go' etc comments which whilst well meaning do undermine BF as they imply BF is hard or an ordeal or something to be endured with gritted teeth rather than enjoyed - this creates a vicious circle as society thinks BF is difficult and women lose confidence in their bodies - and given BF is 95% a mental game - loss of confidence is often terminal for establishing it. I think these comments usually come from those who struggled to establish BF and assume that all BF is like the difficult and painful first few days of BF. When I wean in October I'm only doing so because I want chocolate (and to try for baby no. 2) I'll miss it dreadfully and I think Jonas will too. It's such a simple calm time of the day when I BF him to sleep. The thought makes me sad sad but I'll be honest I'm going to wean for selfish reasons not because it's been a torturous process.

I spoke too soon on him being cool after his missed meds - apparently it takes 24-48 hours before it impacts via an acid uptick - he's been a screamy munchkin today as a result. Sneezes, any loud noise = weeping hysterics when only being in my arms will do confused It's going to be a long day.

itsnotyouitsMeals Mon 29-Jul-13 11:42:37

yw I know you want the cheese and chocolate (me too!) but I conceived while bfing and fed all through pregnancy. However you may not want to do that or tandem feed and also I wanted a much bigger gap so DD1 was just over 2 when I got DD2's bfp. Just a thought. And stunt I know it's hard when you are getting pressie but go for it I say! Bf as long as you want. I fed DD1 for too long in the end I think (3.5 and she would still like to keep going!) but I was aiming for 2.

itsnotyouitsMeals Mon 29-Jul-13 11:43:23

Pressure not pressie!

YellowWellies Mon 29-Jul-13 11:48:12

Meals I would happily tandem feed other than it can cause uterine contractions and seems to have been what made my twin sister go into labour at 27 weeks. Given Jonas turned up at 36 weeks I'm already nervous of early labour. It seems to be something my family does (I'm a 34 weeker)....

PetiteRaleuse Mon 29-Jul-13 12:02:34

DH's car is a vw tiguan which looks big from the outide but is surprisingly comfy on the inside. It's a company car and is being upgraded to an audi a6 estate in November angry which I hate the idea of but may be roomier. I wanted him to go for a touran. I've got a yaris which I love but is quite compact. Was a hypothetical question really I doubt I will need a third car seat.

Sophiathesnowfairy Mon 29-Jul-13 12:03:59

They didn't say anything vq I haven't even got a discharge letter I realised yesterday, but I'm sure I can give them a ring if I need one, I know a lady who works there. I am just going with how I feel and then adding a bit of caution as I tend to think I am ok,which I am sitting around, then do too much then feel rubbish. So I won't do that this time.

I am not taking any pain killers now as I don't need them I just feel sore, not painful. I take your point though about the insides. You don't know what's going on in there. ( they took a picture of it ewwww, I saw my Fallopian tubes hmm )

ValiumQueen Mon 29-Jul-13 12:26:03

After a quick google the NHS advice is return to work 5-7 days post-op Sophia. Clearly I am a softie. I would still advise take all this week off. It is not as if you get much of a chance to rest. Make the best of it I say smile

Lily311 Mon 29-Jul-13 12:41:22

I managed to reserve the car seat det got in halfords, the last one in the store my brother is closed to. Still cheaper to send it to Hungary than buying it here.

I have an assignment due tomorrow aBout babies' first words, it is so interesting to read the material as they are at that stage when they are starting to Babble. O is bang on track. But obv this means I have just started reading the martial and will need to stay awake all night. Argh.

TheDetective Mon 29-Jul-13 13:22:07

Afternoon! smile

Good stuff Lily. They went fast! Thank you Pidj, hope you've got yours now!

DP has taken O to soft play grin. Apparently he is making all the other children and parents laugh with his escaping antics hmm grin.

He looks so cute in his little dungerees today, I'll take a pic later. The colours really suit him!

I'm enjoying the time to myself. But no idea what to do. So I'm sat on the laptop hmm.

TheDetective Mon 29-Jul-13 13:23:59

I forgot to add O woke regularly all flippin' night long, but self settled them all hmm til 6.20. DP fed him, and put him to play in his cot. I suspect he might have gone back to sleep for a little while as it was after 7.30 before he cried to get up shock.

I'm really not sure why his sleep is so restless. <Scratches head>.

ValiumQueen Mon 29-Jul-13 13:47:39

Did you look at that website Detective? I got 7 pairs of PJs for gifts too. You just cannot beat One Direction for 7yo girls.

I am feeling exceedingly anxious this afternoon. Absolutely horrid feeling. Soft play went horribly wrong when DH called asking me to pick him and J up, so I had to get the girls without the usual countdown, DD2 then told me she had done a poo, then I got lost, then DH nearly crashed the car. Grr. It was going so well. I should have just said no to him.

TheDetective Mon 29-Jul-13 14:04:56

I did VQ! I've not ordered yet, as trying to work out if there is anything else I want too! Like you say... good cheap christmas presents there!

Most Men always fuck everything up....

ValiumQueen Mon 29-Jul-13 14:17:10

J looks so grown up in his car seat smile and he looks chuffed to fuck to be in it.

PetiteRaleuse Mon 29-Jul-13 14:44:31

I love the way my girls are starting to communicate with each other now. When DD1 isn't slyly trying to inflict some sort of pain on LO they are really very sweet laughing together.

Four weeks til nursery starts. Four weeks til I shed tears of... Joy grin

Actually I will be very upset when it comes to it. Despite DD1 being a little monster it has been fun watching her turn into one. She was an angel until LO was born. Plus nursery should coincide with major mobility as far as LO is concerned and I'm quite glad I won't have to keep an eye on both at once all day every day. Though, like with DD1, I know I will probably miss her first steps and her first words even. And probably she will finally get the knack of crawling once there and more interesting things happen.

I wonder how my DH will cope with getting them both up, fed, washed, dressed and out of the house every morning (I normally leave for work at about half six in order to be able to leave work early to get them in the evening; but of course all that might have changed by then)

I am also feeling anxious this afternoon vq I am expecting some kind of answer today or tomorrow from work, hoping to get the chance to go to the doctor tnight if DH can get home on time because I really need some kind of sleeping pill or tranqs or ads, and seeing my gastro consultant later in the week, and haven't seen him since I had the awful stomach issues and I think it is going to freak me out a little, even though he is lovely etc and, saved my life so very much in my good books.

ValiumQueen Mon 29-Jul-13 15:08:20

Do prioritise seeing the Dr PR x

PurplePidjin Mon 29-Jul-13 15:11:21

I got it. Well, sort of...

Drove 50 miles to Portsmouth, asked for it at the desk... They couldn't find it. Looked again, nada. So we waited, they discussed, looked on the computer...

And gave us an ex-display one in a current colour for the £50 grin

Apparently the nearest was going to be High Wycombe or Kidderminster shock

PetiteRaleuse Mon 29-Jul-13 15:27:10

I would vq but I am not going with the girls, so am at the mercy of my DH's workload. He has already had to take too luch time off this year for bits and pieces and is running low on half days. Though I suppose he could take some unpaid leave, but until I am back at work we can't really afford it. The Dr is there from 5-7 in the evenings so if he could just get back for half 6 that would be just enough time. Everything would be so much easier if I could sleep a little. Since this whole thing started back in MARCH it has been hard for me to relax. Even less so since it all kicked off in May.

ValiumQueen Mon 29-Jul-13 15:34:27

I am just worried about you x I understand the pressures you are under (hug)

TheDetective Mon 29-Jul-13 15:44:30

I understand PR. Fellow insomniac here. Mine is due to night disturbance though, rather than stress. When I did nights then days I had the same problem as I have had recently.

Currently not having a problem, but it's only been about 2 weeks.

If O slept in the night more reliably, I'd be okay. Dreading going back to work and doing 2 weeks of days and 2 weeks of nights all mixed up in a 4 week period. Fucking cunts.

I'm going to be properly screwed.

Pidj I'd have been shaking with rage if they had done that to us! Good fucking job they gave you that seat though. It's one of my massive bug bears, companies that say they have stock, so you travel a long way for it, to find out they have sold it to someone else. hmm

I made DP ring up to check and he was only traveling 5 minutes down the road! blush

TheDetective Mon 29-Jul-13 15:45:16

Have you tried anything to break the cycle? Medication wise I mean.

PurplePidjin Mon 29-Jul-13 15:50:23

Rage? They were really nice about it! No point getting arsey when calm and friendly gets such good results <mwahahaha>

TheDetective Mon 29-Jul-13 15:51:04

Internal rage!! What would you have done if they hadn't sorted it?!

That's what gives me the rage!

This thread is not accepting new messages.