June 2013 Bebes (1)

[Olimoss]

Including our friends from late May & early July!

Thought time for a postnatal thread.

So. I'm craving a nightly glass of wine already, week
5 of motherhood. Anyone else?!

[MrsBri]

Not yet, but I'm a few weeks behind you!

See how I fare :-)

[forgetmenots]

As I'm mixed feeding I have had a couple of glasses (not in the one night!) but have to say it wasn't that I was missing ... It was all the food! So I've been enjoying shellfish, cheeses, cured meats, runny eggs.... Yum :)

[Hawkmoth]

I had a couple of sips of champagne after the birth. Would have drunk the whole glass but was over excited!

Got another week of antibiotics. Not very well at all, and now my BP is low as well. Will just have to spend more time in bed feeding baby!

[forgetmenots]

Aww hawkmoth :( I'm still on lots of meds for low iron (big blood loss), begged for them to avoid a transfusion and not sure now if it was the right decision. It's taken me weeks to feel human. Really hope you feel better soon

[massagegirl]

I had a bit of bad evening last week and went and had a cry in the garden with a glass of white while my oh bounced the baby!

[massagegirl]

Hope you feel better soon hawk

[Steffanoid]

im not a drink person, even one, since going on the anti depressants nearly 3 years ago now, I got very paranoid about the dont have a drink warning. tbh I dont miss it and I used to really enjoy a drink the one thing I've indulged in is runny egg and I can't wait to have a soft ice cream like a flurry, I dont even miss caffeine although I did learn chocolate contains caffeine!!

is anyone else getting totally sick of doing the clexane injections? I've got 4 more weeks to do of them yet, im gonna run out of leg

[AmIGoingMad]

Aw hawk, forget and massage I hope that you're on the mend soon! And you too pink apples!

Am I still allowed on here what with not being post natal yet?!?! Ha! Pre op was fine today. They freak you out with the things they have to warn you about tho don't they?!
I have to get to hospital on weds morning for 8 but I could be at any point during the day then. I'm hoping the fact I'll be 40+8 at that point might push me up the order over other electives?! I can but hope!
The thought of not eating from midnight is worrying me. But not drinking water is even worse- I'm constantly thirsty and guzzling the stuff at the moment!

Oli- please have a glass for me while you're at it!

[AmIGoingMad]

What are clexane injections?!

[AlohaMama]

I have partaken of a glass or two. I would say I've also been enjoying all the 'banned' food but after doing research I excluded very little food when pregnant anyway. Am currently trying to get my fill of poke (hawaiian-style sushi) before we leave.

[MrsBri]

Clexane is an anti clotting drug, AmI. I'm on my last injection tonight. I was meant to have 7, but as I was given too many I'll be having 9.

Steff, it's a bit extreme how many you're having. How come you need them for that long? And I have to have them in my tummy too :-/ DH administers them for me, thank god.

I'm very tearful at the moment. It feels like I'm going a bit mad at times. Ah well, something else to deal with!

[Sarah2506]

It's weird how things are so different between hospitals. I never got the injections post section, except for two in hospital! I was never very good at excluding food either aloha, so no post pregnant treats here. Are you looking forward to moving back now? I've been to Hawaii a couple of times and can safely say the south coast if England is not the same:-) Go to the Cheesecake Factory in Waikiki before you leave- I've never found anything like it here!

[pinkbear82]

evening all.
hawk I hope you are better soon and feeling more human.
forgets and massage make sure you are giving yourselves a bit of tlc as and when you can.

I had half a pint of cider the other day... took me forever to drink it and afterwards I wondered why I bothered! used to love cider.

ami - glad today went well. the scary info is so silly - when they were going over the info when I almost had the emergency c section and again when they did the epidural I couldn't help but think just get on with it! So 3 July will welcome your lo - how exciting!

mrsbri - sending hugs. hope tomorrow you feel differently and don't forget we're here to listen to rants, however silly things may sound.

dp ended up having his tooth out so tonight should be a better night and just involve settling the baby.

[SunnyL]

I've had a few glasses of wine but it doesn't seem to be doing it for me anymore. DH poured me one tonight but I took one sip and told him to have it. Bit silly but when I was 40+2 I stood in the drink aisle in the supermarket drooling over all the booze I could soon drink but now I can I don't really want it.

What I do want is sushi and Brie. Not together though.

Loads of people have bought us 0-3months but we have limited stuff for the next age ranges so we're going to use the gift receipts to exchange for the larger sizes where we can. Hopefully that doesn't make us mean as we still love the gifts I'd just like to stretch the nice clothes out a bit longer.

[Steffanoid]

I dont know why I have to take so many now im
you should see the bag full of the damn things and the tiny sharps box that fits about 2 of them in it

[MadameJ]

Hello again, things seem to be going well here so far, DD2 is a complete star and bf'ing really well, so well infact she has gained 7oz in 10 days!!!! DD1 seems to be taking everything in.her stride and loves helping with her little sister so at the moment im happy happy happy!

[AlohaMama]

do not envy those of you having to have all those injections. Injections don't really bother me - in moderation - but sounds like you're a human pincushion steff!!

sarah we are working through our bucket list of places to eat out and go to. when the shippers come we'll move out of our house and into a hotel in waikiki for 3 nights. it will either be like a mini-holiday at the end, or more likely, running around like mad things finishing off all the errands. shame you think the south coast is not like here, i was hoping it would be an easy transition...

[Steffanoid]

I wouldn't mind aloha but you should see the bruises I've still got from the 'doctors' who pit tge canulas in and took blood in hospital, my veins dont show up, especially with water retention, it took 2 doctors and a nurse to find a vein in my left arm, they didn't find it funny when I told them I'd be a rubbish drug addict due to the lack of veins, in my defense I was still high off the drug concoction I was on!

[AmIGoingMad]

Ha! I'd love to have seen their faves stef!

I also have to say that anywhere named the Cheesecake Factory would get my vote!

Mrsbri don't worry- its the crazy hormones. Take care of yourself too.

It'll be interesting to see if I end up with those injections too. Things seem to vary so much between regions don't they.

Those who had c sections- what did u eat the night before to keep you going til goodness knows what time?! I'm ravenous at the moment and have had to get up to eat in the night a few times in the last wk.

[AmIGoingMad]

*faces

[RueDeWakening]

Marking place!

My parents brought me a bottle of champagne in the hospital :o along with some crackers and roquefort to eat, too. Ate the crackers, champagne is still in the fridge. I have had a couple of beers though, what with it being nice and sunny for the last few days!

[MrsBri]

AmI, you need more injections if you labour before having a section. DH has just administered my last one. Thank god!

I would eat a shed load of slow release carbs, such as porridge, the night before, AmI. I would be more worried about drinking too as I was SO thirsty towards the end.

We have a bottle of champagne in the fridge too. I don't fancy it yet though. One day!

With regard to being tearful, some of it is general hormones and some is more targeted. Story time!

When we got engaged FiL kicked off at us, slating me and telling Bri he was making a mistake, really going to town and saying he wouldn't come to the wedding. Proper character assassination.

We had all already booked to go to NZ to see DH's brother that Christmas and a truce was called before then. But...I got terribly drunk on shots one night and declared that I thought FiL was a f c**! Not to his face, but I apparently caused a total scene, which I don't remember!

Anyway, we were ejected from his brother's house and stayed in a motel for the rest of the trip. I was then shunned and not spoken to after the trip.

None of his family came to the wedding, though they were invited for DH's sake. I was persona non grata.

Until we announced the pregnancy. Since then they've been all nicey nicey and telling me how great I am etc. Which is clearly due to wanting to see Amy when she was born.

So, I was then put in a situation where I had to be nice to the people who refused to speak with me or attend their son's wedding because they decided I was so awful and it was a mistake for DH's sake which I've been pissed off about ever since, but have tried really hard to just get on with it.

So, fast forward to now with a new baby following c section and raging hormones, combined with being 170 miles from my family and I'm a mess.

The fact is, I don't like his family. I think they're a disgrace for not coming to the wedding. I don't want to spend time with them.

They're banging on about wanting to come round and see Amy, telling me to ask if I need anything and offering help. Basically suffocating me with kindness.

I don't feel comfortable breast feeding in front of them so don't want a constant bloody presence. I've coped without them for a year. I don't want them involved now.

So, now I'm torn between what DH wants (his family would live in each other's pockets given the choice) and what I want (for them to leave me alone). Even if I did get on with them, my idea of how much time you spend with your parents is very different to theirs and I couldn't put in the hours they would like.

So...arrrrghhh much?

Sorry it's long, but I'm using this as therapy!

Oh, and I have barely any friends up here either. I feel very alone. :-(

[pinkbear82]

mrsbri you have my sympathy. out laws are pain at the best of Times. And yours sound slightly similar to mine.

I think be honest with your dp. say his parent's can come around for an hour at x time - but that it's up to him to tell them and stick to it once they are there.
if Amy needs feeding while they are there take her upstairs and if anyone says anything say she needs no distractions to feed properly.

one thing I've learnt since having Violet, you can pretty much get away with whatever you want. everyone's so besotted they are bending over backwards - make the most of that I'm sure in a months time them playing nicely will start to wear off and normal service will be resumed.

if you need someone to listen feel free to pm me or fb me - don't feel alone, and you aren't going any more mad then the rest of us. sending a big hug

[massagegirl]

Mrsbri they sound like a bloody nightmare. Agree take her upstairs to bf, I have done that when I'm not comfortable getting my baps out with certain visitors! It must be hard not knowing people where you are. When you and Amy are ready I'm sure you will meet people at baby and mum groups and classes. Hormones are going to be going mental too so be kind to yourself.
Ps I also think if you do allow them round you shoukd be quite cold, no small talk etc. sounds like they need to grovel their way into your babies life can't just click their fingers and get to be in it. I'm prob the wrong person to give advice I'm sooo stubborn and I never forget! Xx

[SunnyL]

To be fair MrsBri i dont think i'd have needed the vodka shots to call my FIL that if he'd tried to tell my DH not to marry me! You're a bigger person than me to let them back in without an apology.