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Will strawberry blonde/'ginger' hair stay?- upset!(62 Posts)
My beautiful baby girl was born with red/'ginger' or strawberry blonde hair. In some lights it looks really fair and in others light brown but today it started looking quite red.
My husband and I are quite dark but I understand the red gene must be in our genes somewhere. My step daughter has bright red hair so it wasnt a complete shock but I didn't realise my family had the gene either so wasn't expecting it really. My step daughter was born with fiery red hair but my daughters is lighter.
I just feel so worried and upset that she may be open to bullies. People are already commenting on it and using the word 'ginger' which I think is hurtful.
Does anyone else have a red head and how does it make you feel?
Did anyone's baby's hair colour change from red to blonde or brown?
I don't want to cause offence.
this thread is so old, and ginger hair is still gorgeous
I have ginger hair. Being called ginger isn't an insult, it's a descriptor. To be honest your child is far more likely to pick up on anxieties about her hair colour from you if you carry on like this than being bullied by others. It's a shame your DD had a bad time when she was little, but that was a decade ago - attitudes have changed! Don't make a fuss about it, be confident that red hair is lovely, and let your DD take her lead from you.
For bullies most of the time it's the red headed males that get the short end of the stick.
Is this an actual serious question.... My God.... Just be happy that your baby is healthy
My 2 year old has golden ginger hair. It is absolutely beautiful and the only comments we get are how lovely a colour it is.
Sad to hear that about your DSD Bluberry. I hope as she gets older that improves & she comes to feel better about it.
I do know some people who were teased horribly about their hair, but your DSD's experiece sounds like it must've been particularly bad if she's still feeling that way at 16.
I suspect most red heads do put up with a bit of stick & maybe even a bit more than a non-red headed child, but it won't necessarily be a repeat of your DSD's experience.
CarpeDiemCras- As for the comments about my dsd. She is 16 and has lived through years of bullying to the point where she dyes her hair dark and refuses to allow even a root of red through so I am not being unkind and calling her ginger. It upsets me to think that she was bullied about it and knowing how it made her feel, and how she has escaped it now by dying her hair, I worry that this will all be repeated for my child!!
I appreciate that kids will pick on anything different.
I'm pregnant now. DH has the most beautiful hair I have ever seen on a man. It's thick, shiny, and a really rich, darkish ginger.
I am soooo hoping our baby will have his hair.
He, on the other hand, is not, due to his own experience of school name calling. So I can see both sides of the argument. I do think boys get teased more than girls about it sadly.
Hubby's gran was a red head but there doesn't seem to be any red in our family. I keep reading that it must be present on both sides but I'm wondering if it might change as it doesn't seem to be on my side - although in sure it could be underlying.
....and i would bet that as a natural red head you can go any colour...easily. lighten up to blonde....easy.
im naturally very dark brown which i truly dont think fits my colouring at all. Red worked and blonde works - but its all a bit hard to maintain from brown!
we are never happy are we whatever we have....if you have straight hair you want curls.
curly people want poker straight hair....
blondes want to be brunettes
brunetts fancy a change and want to be blonde...
if we are short we want to be tall and wear heels
if we are tall we stand out too much and wear flats....
we change our eye colour with contacts
we change our hair colour with dyes
we change our skin colour with fake tan
we are never happy! be assured that what ever your DD ends up with she will colour it something else!
Personally I find red haired women extremely beautiful! My friend has the most wonderful red hair and is bloody GORGEOUS!!
In my view, people bully people with red hair because they're Jelous!
i should be a red head, i have green eyes and very pale skin. i used to dye it red. i loved it.
im having a blonde spell now and enjoying that too.
you are worrying over nothing - truly. anything that stands out on anyone can be a target for bullies - my dd (15) has blonde waist length hair, she is 5ft 7 and stunning.
she gets called 'spaghetti legs'.
because she has legs like a giraffe and she is very slim. go figure that one out! i cant.
she is beautiful and clearly inspires jealousy. red hair is lovely. i really wouldnt worry.
steppemum - if he has the confidence it's better to make his own issue of it. I know a little boy who calls himself "the ginja ninja". Other kids think he is cool and after you've used the word yourself it loses the ability to hurt. If someone calls him ginger he just shouts back, "yes, that's me, the ginja ninja!"
leaving aside the arguments about whether it is likely to lead to bullying etc.
Sometimes when the hair is changing from dark to light it goes through a slightly red phase usually within the fisrt few months as the prper hair starts to come in. We have a few red heads in my family i have a sister with proper red and 2 brothers with fair red. My mum always says that the red heads are either red or bald to start with. she didn't have any or been in contact with any babies that went red from another colour if that helps.
And I love his red hair and wouldn't change it for the world. I hope one day he feels the same
no, the word isn't hurtful to me. But lots of people have said it is just the description of a colour. I disagree. I think ginger is used as an insult in the UK (or maybe just in England). My ds has been known to burst into tears when people call him ginger, or gingernut or carrot tops. He is a pretty tough 10, but he has been teased over his hair, and he feels powerless as he can't change it, and it makes him stick out like a sore thumb.
he is mature enough to say that really if they didn't pick his hair they would just find something else, like his big feet. But he does feel it, and he doesn't like it.
So I ''worry about it'' because it causes my ds distress.
I thought I had actually made that clear already,
As a full blown ginger, I fail to see why on earth you would want your child to change.
You are dark, she's still fair, but might be ginger. So she could be anything from strawberry blonde through auburn by the sounds of things. I'm assuming she's still tiny, so can't see the merit in over-thinking this at the moment.
Honestly OP, I know you don't mean offence, but it is a little bit offensive. Try substituting redhead with other features or inate characteristic kids might use to take the piss / bully and see how it sounds.
Oh and I hope to god your step daughter isn't seeing any of your worries about this. Kid doesn't need to know it'd be a relief not to be ginger...
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