Eldest DD age 9 has been going to the church with my mum since she was tiny. Not the services but the meetings and events my mum was involved with. Recently the church got a new keen vicar who is trying to get kids involved more, even starting a weekly youth club.
DD has recently been going to the Sunday church services and has an alter "job" (rings bells and carries thing about).
The vicar has asked if she would like to participate in a course, which by description sounds like confirmation classes.
Trouble is, I didn't have her (or the others) christened. As I'm not religious myself I thought it was fairly pointless and preferred to wait till she was old enough to make her own decisions. It appears that this is the time. (And I know she can't be confirmed un-christened)
DH is rather un-impressed by it all, even though I'm trying to put a positive spin on it.
Is it like when a baby is christened and parents/family/godparents are expected or can it be a more solo undertaking. I could probably rustle up a godmother or two at a push but I very much doubt I could convince DH to even turn up, never mind take part, and to be totally honest I don't know if I could join in without being a total hypocrite.
(Just to clarify that I am happy and have no objections to her joining the church. I just don't really want to join in myself)
I see to recall when i got confirmed (ok it was 20 years ago in c of e so things may have changed) a few of the kids that got confirmed with me just got baptised first and did it all in 1. Bit weird - but maybe what's required. Perhaps as the vicar? I don't think you'll need godparents and all the stuff. What does DD think about it? I guess it really has to be her decision now.
She can be christened as part of the same service when she is confirmed - I think it is still normal to have godparents/sponsors, but it doesn't have to include parents. I was confirmed as an adult in CofE and some people in my group had not been christened. It was no problem, I think they had "sponsors" who were other adults they knew who would be involved in helping them grow as Christians.
It also might not be confirmation classes - some churches in the CofE have classes for admission to communion at about that age, but leave confirmation till at least mid-teens when they are more able to make their own commitment. But to be admitted to communion she'd have to be christened, so in that case you might need to do that. But it still wouldn't need the parents to make the commitment, as 9 is old enough to speak for herself - the parents only need to speak for babies and small children who aren't making the choice for themself.
If its high church, it might not be confirmation classes, it might be to receive communion. Many C of E churches (ours included) tend to allow children to receive communion before they are confirmed, with suitable training. But she will need to be baptised first.
Whether she is receiving communion or being confirmed, she can be baptised as part of the same ceremony. The vicar will/should check whether she's been baptised first anyway.