Reassurance please - ghosts in my house?

[onetiredmummy]

Its probably because I'm on my own tonight, but I'm a bit scared & need to talk if you don't mind. I would appreciate any opinions & I'll try not to be too long.

I have lived in my house for 6 years & had nothing happen until my first ds came along 3 years ago. Then I experienced flower smells that came & went really quickly & I had a presence at the top of my stairs, not a frightening one but a strong one. Also when ds1 was a tiny baby I had PND & was changing him one night on the floor, crying, when I suddenly knew someone was behind me, again not frightening me but I sensed someone there. I have also had someone behind me when cooking once.

I asked an acquaintence of mine who claims to be a medium to come & have a look as the top of the stairs was unsettling me. He said that I have 3 ghosts (his words) in my house & told me one was my grandpa who has been dead for years & he was correct when he told me what my grandpa died of. He also told me things that I didn't know about my grandpa that my mum has since confirmed, things about his personality. The other 2 ghosts were a female relative who I think I have placed, but have only talked to once when she was alive & the other one was female but my friend said my grandpa wouldn't let her talk, don't know why so have no idea who she is. Anyway he said that they came because of ds1 & that one of them is always with him. He also said that they watch me in my sleep. (Have just turned light on!).

Now if he correct, then this is my family & they wouldnt hurt me so I shouldn't be afraid right? But the thing that I'm scared of tonight is the rocking chair that used to be in ds's bedroom & is now in the lounge, as he said that I should watch it as it will move on its own. I'm terrified tonight that its going to move, don't know why tonight I think its because I'm on my own & I have a bloody vivid imagination!

I know its silly but I'm really scared.

[lionmummy]

So sorry to hear that you're frightened - not a nice feeling in your own home. I have absolutely no experience here bt if they are your family then I can only think that they are watching over you in a nice way. If they started to 'look after you' when you had pnd, sounds like that happened for a reason when you needed extra support.

[seeker]

Your acquaintance was very irresponsible to say things that frightened you. But people who pretend to be mediums like this are unscrupulous, and latch on to your fears.

There are no such thing as ghosts. There are no such thing as mediums. Your family live on in your memory, but they are not ghosts in your house. You said yourself that you have a vivid imagination, and you've been depressed. Imagination plays strange tricks.

Have you got someone who can come over and stay with you for a while? Or put the telly on. Or move your ds into your bed and cuddle up together for the night.

[Yurtgirl]

Onetired - It sounds like your acquaintance has unecessarily stoked your fears tbh. Maybe some of what he said is true but he has said stuff that has upset you that he should have kept to himself (the chair bit for instance doesnt sound what a medium would say)

If this were me I would find a helpful local vicar or church minister to have a chat too - I wouldnt speak to the acquaintance again about this tbh as it will upset you more

HTH

[DutchOma]

Hopefully you had a peaceful night and feel less frightened this morning. If you would like us to pray for you come over to the Prayerthread. There may be people who have had similar experiences to you.
I will most certainly pray for your peace of mind and also that you may come to see that whatever experiences you have, nothing can separate you from the love of God.

[onetiredmummy]

Thank you all for your support, in the light of day I feel a bit foolish now but last night it seemed so plausible! Your responses did help me.

I think I will give the rocking chair to a charity shop!

Thanks again xxx

[DutchOma]

That seems an excellent plan, Onetiredmummy.

No need to feel foolish for asking for some help when you've got frightened.

[bohemianbint]

Glad you're feeling better today. I've always liked the thought of ghosts, I find it quite reassuring, in a strange way, but I know what it's like to be scared in a house on your own.

I would maybe try to find someone else if you want to get to the bottom of it, your friend sounds a bit . Hope tonight is better!

[Sheeta]

onetiredmummy - I had feelings like this when I was pregnant with DS, and for some time after the birth. Still get them occasionally. I used to see things out of the corner of my eye - cats walking across the room, other things that I won't go into incase it freaks you out, but it definitely eased after a little while...

Yes, get rid of the rocking chair

[loopylou6]

Flowery smells are good signs, you are not in any danger and it sounds like one of your relatives has been assigned to your DS as a spirit guide.

Please dont worry and try and take comfort and company from their presence.

Agree that your 'friend' is a woppa though, fancy telling you that the rocking chair is gonna move Sounds to me like he chucked that bit in to deliberatly frighten you

[Papillon]

Strong emotions such as depression can create and draw psychokinetic activity to your home. The term Ghost or apparitions have often been documented incorrectly and are this excess energy of the emotions manifesting occurences in peoples lives.

Many cases of this psychokinetic activity centreing around people, rather than places, is what many parapsychologists believe as actually manifestations of the unconscious psychokinetic ability of the person around whom they are most active. aka either you son or yourself.

The PND emotions store themselves in your home. however scary and alien such occurrences are to most people?s experience and fully understand the skepticism with which they will be greeted in some quarters, try to understand your emotional history from this perspective. Any time you feel low and frightened breathe good clear vibrations, resonance, moods to help diminish the activity in your house and in yourself or son.

Remember while this frightens you, nothing has actually physically hurt you. Face the fear slowly and slowly things can improve in your home.

(hug)