My 3 (nearly 4) year old has just started asking questions about family relationships and we've told him he had a Grandad who died before he was born. This led to inevitable questions about death e.g. Why do people die? Where do we go to when we die?. His Dad & I have tried reassuring him that it's not likely to happen to him any time soon and that it happens when you get really old or very very poorly. I think he has made the connection with getting older or getting ill and is now scared of both no matter how much we tell him a cold won't kill him nor will having another birthday. Also because we are not religious we have said that no-one really knows what happens after death but that some people believe you come back as another creature or person and some people believe in Heaven and some people believe you're just gone. I think we've made a pig's ear of it but I don't know what I can say that will be at least mostly truthful but not scare him. He just cried and said he didn't want to be 'gone' and could he come back as himself. Any suggestions for dealing with the reality in a way that offers some comfort but is not religious and not an outright lie?
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