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past life connection?

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connected · 07/02/2005 11:49

Can anyone help me out with something. My kids are part of an activity where they meet up with the same gang about once a year. All the mums know each other and all the kids treat the adults as if they were communal mums IFSWIM. Age range of the kids is now about 10- 16 and we've been meeting for many years.

For the last 3 or 4 years I have felt a connection with one of the boys. He seems to feel it too and it is most unnerving. It's not sexual, as far as I can make out, but it's more than just 'friend's son'. It's not something I can talk about to anyone in RL because I'm sure they would be quite horrified at the idea of a 40 year old woman having an interest in a 16 year old boy, spec in the light of the Jacko trial. I would stress that nothing improper has ever happened- or will.

I did ask one of my pen friends who is quite spiritual, and she suggested that perhaps we were connected somehow in a past life- brother and sister perhaps- and that is the connection we feel now.

I'm not sure whether I fully believe in this sort of thing, but it makes me feel better than thinking I've got the hots for someone elses son. I'd be horrified to think some older woman was looking at my boy like that. He's now at an age where he is going out, having girlfriends etc and I am actually jealous. Am I mad?

Can anyone shine any light on this or am I just a sad pervert? (name changed for very obvious reasons).

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Lonelymum · 07/02/2005 11:58

There is no harm in feeling attraction towards the boy as long as you don't act on it in anyway. You can't help the way you feel and, at 16, it is quite possible he is a very good looking, youthful, attractive person. But don't fool yourself into thinking it would be all right to take this further because I don't think it would.

As for past lives, I don't know I believe in that although I like the idea of souls being used again and the world being full of constantly recycling souls. Sorry Lonelymum? No I don't know what I am saying either.

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connected · 07/02/2005 17:39

No no no, I wouldn't dream of trying to take it further. I'd just like to know why I feel like this and if anyone else has felt this sort of odd connection.

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SleepyJess · 09/02/2005 23:19

I feel very 'connected' to my best friends little girl.. I often joke to my friend that she was either mine in a previous life, or I was her daughter! But this doesn't seem to be what you are desicribing. You say it's not sexual.. but you mention 'attraction' and 'the hots' and that you have been feeling this for several years (since he was 12?).. so I am a bit confused about the feeling of connection that you describe.

SJ x

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Chandra · 10/02/2005 00:14

Don't know what to say really. The only thing I can tell you is that for some strange reason I always end up buying, working or researching things that have originated in the 1930s, (without my knowledge and that was long before the time became fashionable, even since I was a girl) sometimes I find it a bit scary, I feel at home with some quite forgotten 1930s songs, one day I mentioned to my father that they made me feel well and remind me of my childhood, only to be told that nobody in the family, friends, in fact nobody that he knew played that sort of music.

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joash · 10/02/2005 00:24

Chandra - I experience exactly the same sort of thing. It started many years ago, when DH and I were going to one of his firms 'do's' and it had a 1930's theme. We were both working and agreed to meet there. He'd hired a suit which I hadn't yet seen him in. I walked in took one look at him and had this really strange experience. It sounds odd, but our surroundings changed and I saw him, dressed almost identically, slightly different hairdo, in a 1930's setting - everything changed (sites, sounds, music, smells, the people around us, etc). Although we'd been together for a few years at that stage, I suddenly had this overwhelming feeling that I'd finally found him again, and that we were somehow back home. It literally took my breath away, I couldn't leave him alone all night and when I was explaining my reaction - he'd had exactly the same experience.

It all happened very quickly, literally seconds, but still gives me the creeps today - even though there was nothing malevolent about it.

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Snugs · 10/02/2005 00:29

I firmly believe in past-lives and have had a regression session.

My DS2 recently surprised me though. He started talking about his granddad dying in a car accident. (DS2 is 3. My dad died in 1999 of cancer, Fil died in 2002 of heart attack). I told him 'not car accident' but he insisted it was his other granddad - and that he had been with him in the car, which was hit by a train! He has since come out with little bits of extra info. But most surprising, he has pointed out were the level crossing used to be and said that?s where the accident happened. The crossing and train tracks were removed over 30 yrs ago and there are no visible signs of their existence.

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Chandra · 10/02/2005 00:31

Joash, probably I should accept the offer and e-mail you. I need to go now, see you tomorrow

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joash · 10/02/2005 00:32

I would love to have regression sessions.

At our old house, we used to have quite a walk to get to DS's school and he insisted everytime we crossed the main road, that this was where he had been knocked down by a blue car when he was little. He has never had any sort of road accident, and doesn't even remember the road now.