i want dd christened, dh doesn't, don't know how we can ressolve this one

[spottyzebra]

id really like dd to be christened as its traditional in my family
dh doesnt want her christened

i don't really fancy a baby naming day as personally it feels a bit like a pretend christening to me,but that is only my feelings on the matter.

what maks it worse is dn is being christened on mothers day, my first mothers day and i don't really want to spend my first mothers day with everyone asking me, when or are you are you going to get your dd christened? which is going to make me feel shit as i can't really say to all my aunts and uncles etc well i want to but dh doesn't

i consider myself christian and when i was pg with dd, i had a hll of a time and alot of complications, such as bleeding and cramps, high bp, diabetis, hyperemisis and everynight i would pray to god to keep me and my baby safe and at the birth and straight after

and i feel this has helped my and dd through
i dont go to church but it doesnt change the way i feel

whats not helping is the fact dd and dn only hav a few months betwen them,and its on mothers day

[RuthChan]

I'm really sorry to hear about your dilemma.
Do you know why your DH is so against having her christened?

[cestlavie]

As a DH I was against having DD christened because very simply I don't believe in any sort of god and I'd have liked DD to grow up entirely non-denominational and be able to make her own mind up in her own time about which, if any religion, she chose to follow rather than having some arbitrary religion imposed on her before she could decide. And, as you know, if she is christened, you are then obliged to raise her in the Christian faith.

DW on the other hand was very keen to have DD christened, not because she is particularly religious (although she is a latent Christian) but because she felt it was the "right" thing to do. In the end, we agreed that she would be christened but that the obligation to raise in her in that faith would be solely DWs (i.e. future church attendance etc.). Would that help?

[MaryBS]

cestlavie, that's a good suggestion.

My DH isn't a Christian, and I started going to church again just before our two were Christened, so I was fortunate that he didn't mind at all - as far as he was concerned, it didn't make any difference.

[BreeVanDerCampLGJ]

Did you discuss this before you had a baby ?

If you did and he said he didn't mind then he is not in a position to backtrack now.

Being christened is no load to carry and I fail to see your DH's objections as being relevant to be quite honest.

[OverworkedAndUnderpaid]

What's the relevance of mothers' day?

it will be mothers day for everyone there, not just you