PLEASE DON'T READ THIS if you have recently lost someone as I promise I don't want to offend/upset anyone...
My mum died very suddenly earlier this year and I am having great difficulty coming to terms with things. I was brought up by a very traditionally Christian father and mother who went to a very soulless local church and dragged us along each Sunday then they would come home and my father would completely slate the minister until he eventually stopped going altogether but still said prayers and read the Daily Bread books every day.
I always thought I was a believer and was "saved" when I was around 11 yrs old at a Billy Graham crusade and went to baptist/evangelical churches for a while before the teenage years came along and led me astray. However, when I spoke to my very much loved mum on the phone on the tuesday night and was told on the wednesday she had a massive stroke during the night, I was incredibly shocked that she was dead by the end of the week. We all went to be with her in hospital on the Wednesday and went to see her each day (although she never came out of her coma) in the hope that she would somehow recover since she had been so fit and well and her collapse had been so sudden. She was young as well which was probably the biggest shock. When we were told she "didnt have long" we rushed to the hospital but were too late. The nurse said we could go and see her. When I saw her empty shell of a body, I felt all shreds of my faith disappear - although I am still terrified to admit to this out loud as I have had it hammered into me that you go to Hell if you don't believe but I am feeling it so hard to believe in any kind of afterlife or anything at all apart from how final death is and how horrific it is to see someone so full of life one second and literally gone the next.
Sorry to be so morbid but I really need some advice and it is too hard to talk to this in any kind of honest terms with people close to me.
Thanks for your time and I appreciate any helpful words.
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Paranoid1stTimer · 05/12/2007 20:29
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