the law of attraction, can someone answer my question?

[cheeryface]

i understand that our thoughts determine our feelings, our feelings become our deeds etc

i understand that happiness is from the inside out and not the other way around

i understand that what we focus on gets bigger and that we attract what we think about.

but, how the hell do you choose your thoughts?

i can sit down and puposefully think positive about somethings but unwanted thoughts just pop up all the time!

i don't want to think irritated or angry thoughts about my partner, i want loving thoughts lol but it seems beyond my control.

please explain...if you can

btw i have recently read every manifesting, law of attraction, cosmic ordering, positive thinking etc book in the library and i still don't get it

[Niecie]

I am no expert but I think the key is repetition over a long period of time thereby fooling the brain in to thinking that is what you really believe. A bit like smiling will make you feel better even if you start off miserable. Have you tried looking at CBT books?

[cheeryface]

no never tried cbt. atually been doing really well and improved a few areas of my life already but i've got pmt this week and it's beginning to slide lol

[cheeryface]

does anyone else know anthing about manifesting /law of attraction?

[yama]

Buddhism talks about 'skilful actions'. Skilful actions obviously come from the mind. Meditation concentrates the mind into performing skilful actions.

Actually, it's a lot more complicated that that but if you are interested there are loads of books and websites (buddhanet.net).

[bossybritches]

Cheery you can't help the odd negative thoughts that slide into your mind that's natural. Just acknowledge it as unwanted, thank wherever it came from and try & focus on the positive thoughts (difficult with PMT & DP's I know )

It does get easier!

[cheeryface]

o.k