DD is 2.2
I've taken her to mass since she was 3 weeks old, for the first year of her life she was good as gold, never made a sound, never played up, I was hoping that by taking her to mass that early on, she'd get used to it and behave when she got older.
However... it appears that familiarity has bred contempt and she will not stay seated in the pew next to me. Now, I'm not so unreasonable that I expect her to follow the mass, or sit quietly doing nothing, but I would at least like her to stay in the pew and not make too much noise.
I can't leave her at home, the OH works on Sunday mornings, so if she doesn't go to church, I can't go to church. There is no sunday school, we have a new parish priest who is very sniffy about kids in general (actually we've been trying to work out whether he's cripplingly shy or just has no social skills whatsoever). Just before Christmas he suggested to me that I don't bring her as it's becoming 'obtrusive' for the rest of the congregation, which really upset me, as this is what she does:
I sit in the 2nd to back pew, right at the end so if she does kick off I can make a quick getaway so she won't disturb people.
However, this means she can get out to the back of the church, and she goes off and sits on the low step next to the windows. When she gets bored with me ignoring her, she'll come back for a minute or so, then potter off again. If I try to make her sit with me or stop her from going, she screams the place down, so my view is that it's better to have her quietly wandering than yelling throughout mass. However, it's pretty constant and she'll try to go up with the offertory procession etc as 2 little girls who sit behind her (who adore her) help with it and she will toddle off behind them. Apparently this is disruptive....
She will also say things quite loudly, our church has good acoustics so it carries, and no matter how I tell her beforehand that she must be quiet in church, or shush her when we're in there, it has no effect.
Threatening to take her out is no good, she doesn't want to be in there in the first place, so it's no punishment, even if I make her stand in a corner once we're outside...
If I bring toys and books she will bang them on the pew, as she likes the noise they make, so that's a non-starter.
Should I be bothered about this or press on regardless? I feel like I've gone 10 rounds with Mike Tyson by the time communion comes around! I also feel like I haven't attended mass, as I've been too concerned with what she's doing/where she is.
Is she just too young for mass?
If anyone has any tips, please, please share them!
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Churchgoers! How do you keep your toddler happy during mass, or am I onto a loser from the start?
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Lovecat · 30/04/2007 11:43
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