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McBounty Thu 19-Oct-17 16:32:23

I am a recent converted Christian. I attend a lot of prayer meetings with Christian friends, attend Church every week and attend a ladies night where we listen to testimonials, pray, listen to a word from our pastor etc. These are weekly practices. I love doing these things as I feel so close to Jesus.

I love Jesus and His path is the best path. He has directed my life in such a beautiful way. Particularly lately.

My husband is a strong atheist however. I mean, very very strong in his disbelief in God. He questions me daily and since I became a Christian, our relationship has never been the same. He is resentful, jealous and very aggressive about it sometimes. I've been considering for a while now, whether continuing with my marriage is what I want. I feel miserable. I think that my husband does too. He just can't move passed this though.

Anyway, there's a guy who goes to my church and I'm adopting a slight crush on him. He is kind to me. He is double my age though. I don't know why, but I just feel drawn to him. I know it's absolutely wrong though. My husband and I wasn't married in Church, but are still married and even having these thoughts is a sin. It's eating me up inside. I don't know what to do and I don't ever want to displease Jesus.

What do I do? I would never physically cheat on my husband. I am just really confused.

Can anyone advise?

PinkfluffySlippers63 Thu 19-Oct-17 17:34:03

McBounty I don't know what denomination you are but could you speak to your priest / minister about your situation. You won't be the first or last person in the congregation who has experienced these problems of having a partner who does not share their beliefs. Regarding the feelings for another person - its not surprising that you feel drawn to this person because you are both sharing the same interest. Could you mentions these feelings to your priest /minister? No need to go into the details... you could just say you've had "impure thoughts" and ask for forgiveness. Good luck !

Yosemite234 Thu 19-Oct-17 22:06:08

you could just say you've had "impure thoughts" and ask for forgiveness. Good luck !

It is for Christ to forgive, not a priest. OP you two problems:
1) conflict with your dh
2)Attracted to another man

The other man is an added distraction and having an affair will only condemn you and your faith in the eyes of your husband who is already struggling with your new found faith.

The bible says resist temptation and it shall flee from you.

I would find another church immediately, then concentrate on your marriage. Don't forget, more than attending church, weekly meetings etc your greatest testimony will be your actions. Above all be prayerful, this is the fuel of every Christian.

Jason118 Fri 20-Oct-17 21:36:49

I would suggest that you could be using your new found enlightenment as an excuse to exit an unhappy marriage. Try praying really hard and see if anything happens.

DaughterDrowningInJunk Fri 20-Oct-17 21:47:14

Does your church allow you to be unequally yoked?

McBounty Fri 20-Oct-17 21:59:51

Jason118, I think that perhaps you're right.

Daughterdrowning, I only become a part of the church last year. I am. 27.
My husband and I got married when I was just 19. We were both non believers. I then found my faith.

Our church doesn't care whom we marry. We believe that by shining Jesus' light in to our home and being an example to Him, that it will help bring others in to His kingdom too.

My husband wants no part in that, which is fair enough, I would never try to force him, but it's proving incredibly difficult for our marriage, along side other issues.

McBounty Fri 20-Oct-17 22:01:28

I recognise the ridiculous amount of grammar fails above. I apologise.

Aquamarine1029 Sat 21-Oct-17 18:10:20

Do you have children?

McBounty Sat 21-Oct-17 18:43:36

Aquamarine, yes we do.

LaurieFairyCake Sat 21-Oct-17 18:50:45

Well stop talking about it. It’s massively important to you but new Christians do tend to blether on about it endlessly. I know I did when I was re born.

Do not spend all your time thinking and doing Christ, be normal - parent your children, make love with your husband, sin and privately repent like any other fucker.

He is resentful and jealous because you’re thinking about it and talking about it more than you should be (probably)

And you need to stop seeing your crush. Stop sitting next to him, stop talking to him, do not seek him out - you’re sinning. If your relationship with your husband was good before conversion then take your focus from the other man and direct it at your dh.

All your problems will NOT be fixed by getting off with a man from your church. And trust me, the path of good does not involve that.

headinhands Sat 21-Oct-17 19:25:48

What Laurie said. Also want to point out that divorce in marriages where both spouses are Christian is higher than where they’re not. (Learnt this a while ago so may not be the case now. Either way, having a spouse of the same belief doesn’t equate to a happy marriage).

Tell me, why did you fall in love with your husband?

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