Hi Nearlythree - you've got 3 too, so different to having 2..... its the hardest thing i have ever ever done and the best; making me laugh one moment and cry the next. and of course i would be the perfect mummy if only i could get enough sleep
hope you don't get too disheartned with the meditation. one of the ex monks at the place i go to says there is no good or bad meditation, we just try to aim for equanimity. I can honestly say it's one of the best things i have ever done - (not just for me but for my family aswell!) if you can, it may help to join a meditation class or go on a retreat, but if not the following may help
The Tranquilising Breath
1.try for 20 mins am and pm to find a quiet space and sit/lie down and just let yourself get comfortable and 'come down' from the days events for the first couple of mins
2.then slowly focus on the warm air entering the tip of your nostrils, feeling it slowly go down the back of your throat (letting your jaw relax, drop and go soft) suffusing into your lungs and down permeating into your belly, (letting your belly go soft) feel the breath reaching all parts of your body, your arms, the tips of your fingers, your legs, even your eyelashes etc.
- if your mind wanders back to thoughts then watch the thoughts pass through and gently return to the breath.
Try for 5 breaths. if you continue to get the feelings of anxiety you could try chanting the sound 'Ham' (yes weird I know) it may help open the throat.
another technique is related to mindfulness in everyday life, just trying to be present and watchful of your thoughts, feelings, sensations during the breathing, again focusing on the warm air entering the tip of your nose and just letting yourself feel, hear and see what is going on in your mind and body. this time the breath is the background rather than the object, after a while you may feel strange as your mind processes the day or memories and there may be constant chatter just watch it and allow it to come and go, it may proliferate and turn to sensation (for example you might start thinking of how someone was treating you that day and if it caused a stressful reaction, your mind may relive the sensation - tightness in the throat, chest, heart racing etc. this time as you are watching those thoughts, note the feelings as they come up so instead of thinking and therefore feeling 'i am angry' note 'anger' as the feeling of tightness starts to grip the throat or chest, observe the feeling 'tightness' really listen gently to your body and the tone of the feeling - is the tightness heavy? is there heat or a coolness to the sensations etc. you will hopefully begin to distance yourself from your emotions and feelings so by taking the 'i' away, you take away the ownership of the feeling (the feeling owning you) and therefore its power. each time a thought or feeling comes up just watch, observe and let yourself return to the breath.
its trying to help you not take everything so personally. i've found when i get the flash points especially when i'm trying to get all of my children to bed when they are overtired instead of becoming a screaming banshee, i start to reign in the feelings when they come up, even smiling at them like old familiar friends - here comes irritation, here is impatience, here is anger and it just slows everything down and has made me realise (most of the time) that its not them making me annoyed - i'm making myself annoyed, i've made myself feel like that.
"the thought manifests as the word
the word manifests as the deed
the deed develops into habit
and habit hardens into character
so watch the thought and its ways with care
and let it spring from love
born out of concern for all beings"
(buddha)