We've been invited as a family to a friend's Bat Mitzvah, which is a new experience for all of us. It's at a liberal synagogue.
Stupid questions I have are:
How smart would DS's be expected to be? Particularly 12 year old DS - he basically has school trousers, or black skinny jeans. Has a jacket, and can wear his school shoes, but would he be expected to wear a tie?
I understand that cash is an acceptable present, but how much?
I've asked my friend a few questions, but feel silly to keep asking!
I think that every synagogue community is different, even within the same movement. In ours, we would expect smart clothing to recognise the importance of the event, but not necessarily a tie for a teenage boy.
As for money, I would give the sum that you might normally give for the birthday present of the child of a close friend or relative. My dd's Bat Mitzvah was a very modest affair and she received some £10 vouchers as well as sums up to about £40 - but that was from close relatives.