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DueInFebruary Wed 29-Jul-15 20:33:02

Both DH an I are christened, however neither of us are particularly religious. After a lot of thought we have decided to get DD christened. The only problem we have is choosing god parents. There is only really one person we would pick and cannot decide on a further two. Is it obligatory to have three or will one suffice?

heylilbunny Thu 30-Jul-15 02:02:12

What is your faith background? Are you C of E?

fourtothedozen Thu 30-Jul-15 17:32:45

Why would you want a christening if you are not religious?

BackforGood Thu 30-Jul-15 17:37:33

One is fine, but it may be different in different denominations.

However, if you are not intending to "bring your dc up in the Christian Faith", then why would you stand up and promise you were ? confused

fourtothedozen Thu 30-Jul-15 17:41:54

Backforthegood- that's the bit I don't get.

Religion aside- why would you make a public promise or declaration that you have no intention of keeping?

Do you make all your promises so casually DueInFebruary?

firesidechat Thu 30-Jul-15 17:45:06

What are you hoping to achieve by having a Christening? If you want some kind of ceremony have a naming ceremony and a party afterwards. No need to involve religion and I say that as a Christian.

KungFuhrer Thu 30-Jul-15 17:48:25

What about a thanksgiving ceremony instead?

DueInFebruary Thu 30-Jul-15 20:05:06

We plan on dd attending church regularly with mil fil dm and df as they are practicing Christians. And feel as with us, it will give her a good moral upbringing and then later in her life it will be her decision whether she continues or not

fourtothedozen Thu 30-Jul-15 20:14:06

and then later in her life it will be her decision whether she continues or not

Not so easy when you have been indoctrinated as a child.

Op do you feel unable to give your DD a "good moral upbringing" ?

AuntieStella Thu 30-Jul-15 20:25:23

I didn't read 'not particularly religious' as a synonym for 'not religious' and really cannot see why a christening of this child would be in any way inappropriate.

StillinShockAhhhhhhh Thu 30-Jul-15 20:25:44

I didn't say I was incapable of providing a good moral upbringing just that both me and DH benefited from being brought up in the church. There are definitely parts of our lives that were influenced by it and stand out in comparison to friends that were not. I didn't set out offend anybody or to be questioned in our decision. I just wanted advise with regards to godparents. Clearly I should not have asked

KungFuhrer Thu 30-Jul-15 20:25:59

But its not your pil promising to raise the child Christian. Lying to God in church is not really the best start to a moral life is it?

StillinShockAhhhhhhh Thu 30-Jul-15 20:26:25

Ipad STILL hasn't updated my username apologies!

KungFuhrer Thu 30-Jul-15 20:27:08

Your child does not have to be christened to attend church.

StillinShockAhhhhhhh Thu 30-Jul-15 20:28:37

I said we aren't particularly religious not that we are atheist. There would Be no lying in church

GasLIghtShining Fri 31-Jul-15 15:30:46

If it is C of E they like for a girl to have two females and one male all of whom should have been baptised. I would ask the Vicar if it is possible to have less. My DC were baptised Catholic and each only has one godparent

I know you don't particularly want comments on any other aspects but as someone who had to listen to my DC constantly asking why daddy wasn't coming to Church with us and then later why should they go if dad doesn't. it is something you should think about.

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