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Would the use of an adult toy be wrong?

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notaname Sun 18-Jun-06 20:42:20

DH and I been married 15yrs. 3 kids but not much sparkle in certain areas anymore. Would it be wrong to use an adult toy to liven things up? We are both Christians but I cant really get my head around the question so can`t talk to DH or our priest about my big idea. If I`m being frank I want a little more attention and fun in that area. I`ve read a thread or two on here over the years and thought perhaps a toy may do the trick. Would it be wrong though?

SoupDragon Sun 18-Jun-06 20:43:07

Does the bible say "Thou shalt not use a vibrator"?

SoupDragon Sun 18-Jun-06 20:44:29

Sorry, that was a bit flippant. But does the babile say anything about, er, "accessories". I'm not sure if there was an equivalent when the bible was written.

notaname Sun 18-Jun-06 20:45:27

Dont remember that bit - no. I`ve used that argument with myself but the catholic guilt thing is bothering me.

mcmudda Sun 18-Jun-06 20:46:31

I'm a Christian too - can't say me and dh have used anything "extra", but I can't see why not - it's nots like you're bringing another person into things, just some batteries.

FrannyandZooey Sun 18-Jun-06 20:49:10

I think anything that helps you and your dp to show your love for each other, without hurting anyone else, must be a good thing

notaname Sun 18-Jun-06 20:49:37

mcm - I thought about that and felt the same way but then words like fornication pop into my head.

WigWamBam Sun 18-Jun-06 20:50:47

Fornication is having sex outside marriage ... nothing to do with using toys to spice things up.

If you want to try then try - there's nothing sinful about it.

notaname Sun 18-Jun-06 20:52:04

Thanks for the smile F&Z I`m not looking for permission from MN you understand, just a voxpop from other "believers" on their feeling on the matter. Ultimately it is somthing I`d like to try if I can convince my concience.

MrsBadger Sun 18-Jun-06 20:54:38

believers voxpop answer: No, it would not be wrong

FrannyandZooey Sun 18-Jun-06 20:55:36

Ah in that case then, as I'm not a believer, you had better cross me off your list.

mrsbang Sun 18-Jun-06 20:57:18

The view of our local (now retired) vicar was that as long as both partners were willing, blah blah blah, anything goes.

notaname Sun 18-Jun-06 21:00:14

Wow a vicar who talks about adult toys! Don`t get where I am.
All responses quite favourable so far - interesting.

notaname Sun 18-Jun-06 21:01:18

Should have read - dont get that where I am.

SoupDragon Sun 18-Jun-06 21:03:48

One thing though... if you can't talk to your DH about whether it is right, how are you going to broach the subject if you do decide it's right? Would it not be more helpful to discuss it with him from the start?

mrsbang Sun 18-Jun-06 21:07:46

lol, I never spoke to him about it personally you understand (we got married in a different church) but several friends/acquaintance relate similar tales of the "anything goes" conversation prior to the marriage.

Funnily enough, the current vicar, who is very different, seems to talk about sex a lot (socially, not necessarily from the pulpit, rofl)

Blossomhill Sun 18-Jun-06 21:12:13

I am sure anal sex would be frowned upon?

Have to say though a vibrator should be fine as long as it's between you and your dh.

notaname Sun 18-Jun-06 21:14:15

Thought I`d have to try it SD to see if it works (IYKWIM) then talk to/show DH. If I go ahead with this, got a feeling he may quite like it.

bebejam Mon 19-Jun-06 00:05:09

notaname,

the Bible is actually pretty steamy in some places- and God totally designed sex to be fun and sensual and to build intimacy... I don't think there is anything wrong with using sex toys if you think it would spice things up.

but... if the vibrator became a substitue for sex with hubby- that could begin slowly to weaken the fabric of your intimacy and instead of adding sparkle, your sex life with DH could possibly just disminish further.

I've thought about getting one of those bunny eared companions... but I saw the sex in the city episode where Charlotte became addicted to hers... and am a bit afraid that I'd have the mind blowing orgasms with the bunny that don't happen so often with DH these days- end up a bunny addict, and that the bunny would render DH obsolete!

but I digress,.... by all means dress up like a nurse or buy those stick on tassles or whatnot if it livens things up. Nothing wrong with toys at all if it means you are enjoying sex more together and having fun.

miket34 Thu 25-Feb-16 05:46:50

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TeaAddict235 Sat 27-Feb-16 20:22:48

Would the use of one alone be wrong according to the Bible then? Do any Christians own up to using one?

amysmummy12345 Sat 27-Feb-16 20:26:54

I'm a Christian and I do with DH ...

DitheringSJ Sun 28-Feb-16 23:39:01

Interesting post. Something I dithered about for a long time as I've been with my husband for over 20 years and orgasms have never come easy.

I bought an Ann Summers bullet for stimulation which really does the trick. He knows I have it but we don't use it together.

I'd say the bullet would be the least 'intimidating' equipment among the selection available - it's only three inches.

I often feel guilty because I know it's supposedly disapproved of to use outside of the 'act' but I wonder how a group of men can decide what's right for us. Definitely not something I feel comfortable confessing so I go around in endless circles about whether to ditch it or not. The fact that my priest continually fails to fulfill his own duties and seems to hate his job shouldn't make me think 'what the hell' but unfortunately it often does.

gamerchick Sun 28-Feb-16 23:47:25

Oldest zombie thread I've ever seen I think grin

AndNowItsSeven Sun 28-Feb-16 23:58:11

I don't think it would be wrong as long as it was used together and wasn't any kind of s and m toy.

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