Ahh that made me laugh!! Seriously, thanks for the advice though. And I'm quite aware I have probably offended them, I'm also a parent of a child born out of wedlock from a previous relationship! He really has made his life difficult for himself
Firstly, you will have offended them by shagging their precious, innocent son out of wedlock, so don't worry about offending them further.
I would ask your BF what his family would wear. I think it depends on the family.From experience, having married into an Irish family, they will go to town with gossip if you don't look clean. (Not me not being clean, SIL!)
You don't need to do anything during the service. Just sit there, or stand when everybody else does. When everybody else goes up for communion, just stay in your seat. Look like you know what you are mumbling, and you will be fine.
Am going over to Ireland soon with my boyfriend, and it will be the first time I have met his parents and family (so any advice there for a start would be great!). My BF is Catholic, I am an atheist. This holds no problems for us, but his family are really quite religious. Whilst I'm there they will attend a month minds mass for a relative and I will go (I have no problem with this). But I have absolutely no idea on what to do, say, wear?!
If anyone could just point me in the right direction it would really help, as I am a bit nervous I am going to somehow massively offend them!!