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Puzzled about a marriage ruling

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KellyMarieTunstall Sun 16-Dec-12 17:18:38

Hope someone can help me understand something I was told recently.

I had a conversation with a woman who had been married for several weeks. She said she was not living with her new husband but would be soon. The reason for not living with her husband was that she didn't really know him that well and in her religion she wasn't allowed to live with her husband until she did know him well enough. He had been supporting her financially from the date of the marriage though.

I speak with a wide variety of people and accept that there are many and various ways to live ones life. But I admit that this time I was a bit flummoxed when the woman went on to say that the religion was Christianity.

Can anyone enlighten me about what branch of Christianity has these rulings.This purely for my own education.

The woman was English as was her husband if that's any help .

Before anyone asks -no I didn't question her further as it really isn't any of my business,I wouldn't be so rude and was nothing to do with our original reason for speaking .

weegiemum Sun 16-Dec-12 17:20:33

Never heard of this, and I've been a Cgristian of various flavours for most of my life. Very weird!

KellyMarieTunstall Sun 16-Dec-12 19:10:57

I did query it with her but didnt want to press the point as I had no valid reason for doing so. I am broadly Christian too but never heard of anything remotely like this arrangement.

But I am assuming there must be some branches (or at least one branch) of Christianity that encourages arranged marriages since she had no reason to make this up.

sarahtigh Mon 17-Dec-12 13:59:22

I have never heard of it and have studied theology and know a fair amount about most protestant denominations, it is not a presbyterian, evangelical or baptist practice, I am sure it is not catholic CofE or methodist either

most more evangelical christians that are strong on the no-sex before marriage do believe in living and sleeping together immediately after marriage and in fact counsel a short period entirely alone together( whether honeymoon or at home) not seeing other family friends etc

I'm another one who has studied theology and knocked around ecumenical circles and I've not heard of this. Sounds cultural rather than religious.

crescentmoon Mon 17-Dec-12 16:14:17

plymouth brethren?

sarahtigh Mon 17-Dec-12 21:16:42

it is just possible it could be exclusive brethren as they do not eat or socialise outside work etc with anyone who is not also exclusive brethren

but its certainly not the ordinary brethren type church

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