Support thread for the Mental Health board

[amillionyears]

I have ok'd this thread with MNHQ, and they are happy about it.
They suggested it is set up here, and link to it from the MH topic so this is what I am doing.

I am thinking it would be a nice thing to do,that if any persons on the MH board would like a prayer or prayers said for them,that they ask for a prayer to be said for them, either on the MH thread that they are on,or post directly onto the thread I am about to start on the Mental Health board.

[Flosie1989]

Lovely idea xx

[Mylittlepuds]

You could try saying a prayer for me? Feels very self indulgent to ask but it's worth a shot :-) I've had extreme anxiety since the birth of my DS 18 months ago and have found out I'm expecting again. Unplanned but we're thrilled. I still suffer anxiety. All I want is to be able to enjoy my son and this new baby without anxiety as it effectively ruined my time with my beautiful, amazing son. I realise there's people who have been through things in life a lot more serious than this.

[Mylittlepuds]

I feel guilty for asking now!! I do emphasise that I do know there are people with worse 'problems' than mine. It's a lovely thought, very caring.

[fourbears]

Great idea. Will say a little prayer, puds.

[Kaykat]

Hi puds, don't feel guilty, just because there are people worse off doesn't mean your situation isn't important. I will pray for you.

[Mylittlepuds]

That's so lovely both of you. Thank you!

[susiedaisy]

Great idea

[thegreenheartofmanyroundabouts]

Will pray for lessening of anxiety.

[HavingALittleFaithBaby]

That's what the thread is here for puds! Praying for you.

Lovely idea amillionyears! :)

[tuffie]

I had extreme anxiety after the birth of my son so I know what you are going through. I too will pray that your anxiety will cease and you will be able to enjoy both of your children.

[MrsHelsBels74]

Mylittlepuds. Just wanted to post on here to (hopefully) offer a little reassurance. I had horrific PND after DS1 was born & was terrified it would happen again if I had another one. DS2 is now 9 weeks old & apart from one minor wobble (seemed major at the time but looking back it wasn't) I haven't had any signs it's returning. So be aware but don't assume you'll have the same experiences with further children that you had with your first.

[Hoophopes]

What a kind thought. I am struggling to pray for self as don't feel I deserve it (hypocritical as a believer I know and am struggling to have faith). I have a baby, much longed and waited for, pnd (turned down for help by peri-natal mental health team), had some short term assessment adn help and told I need specific help but the person who can help me has a new job and although it is possible for her to work with me she has said "no" and that is that. Am struggling, admitting I need help was so hard after years of hiding things and I so wanted to enjoy my baby and each day is hard to get through now. To have been given hope and to lose it has made struggles harder. (sorry feel so selfish asking for prayer, when I know there is no hope in my life but am desperate for ds).

[thegreenheartofmanyroundabouts]

Prayer of course Hoophopes. I had PND with my first and so you have this virtual hug (((()))) but it sounds like you need to talk to your health visitor/GP ASAP.

[amillionyears]

I will pray for you Hoophopes.
Never give up hope.
It is never selfish to ask for help, it is a strong thing to do.

[HavingALittleFaithBaby]

Praying for the emetophobes.

Praying for Lottie and what you're going through.

Hoophopes I've not had PND but have been depressed and felt like I didn't deserve prayers and felt so low I couldn't imagine how God could love me. Praying you feel immersed in God's love and become surrounded by people who can love and restore you.

[Hoophopes]

Thanks. It is because I had depression before the peri-natal team will not help. Health visitor useless as can't do anything and all hope was on getting help that I now can't have and don't deserve.

[amillionyears]

Hoophopes, does your GP know you have been turned down for help?
Could he suggest someone else to help you?

[Hoophopes]

Gp knows and can't get me anything amillionyears. I was offered someone from another service who could help me but she has been offered another job which starts in December and as it is funded by another agency she cannot work with me and I don't fit the requirements to work with her replacement (it is confusing - this help I was offered wasn't linked to pnd, but something my husband fought for over 18mths!!). I don't fit any box, too bad for one service and not good enough for another, or no funding or worker. Main issue is I know what I need and can't have it, which is making things worse. Dh taken a week off work as he knows how i can't cope with this situation. Saw the lady today who told me definitely there is no time or funding for the help she says I need. So it is final.

[amillionyears]

There do seem to be a few charities for peri-natal support. Would any of these be of any use to you do you think?
Dont know how useful or specific they are, or whether they are in your area at all.

[Hoophopes]

thanks - prayer is holding me up right now, when little else is. Also a faintest glimmer of hope of help, after my husband had a phonecall today. but it sounds beyond human ability that I will get it, it is so confusing. The NHS peri-natal team will not help, so not sure of charity.

[Catree]

Please can I make a prayer request? I am struggling with PND. I haven't spoken to my GP about this as I am too scared that they will tell social services (which other people say has happened to them) and I couldn't cope if they got involved.

I feel lost. I feel I am trapped by my two children, and can't see any way out. I genuinely feel they would be better off if I wasn't around, and I cry out of pity for them that they have been given me as their mother. I know I love them, but I feel guilty that I do not love them enough. I lose my temper with them, and then feel so guilty for shouting I just sit on the floor and cry, which scares my poor beautiful boys and makes them cry too. I hate myself for feeling this way, and not being in control.

Please can you pray for my healing from this? Or that I will find the help I need without risking losing my beautiful boys? Or that I could one day find the strength to admit to my husband some of what I feel?

[Kaykat]

Hi Catree, I will pray for you. I have no personal experience of pnd, but I am a mum so I do know that your DCs would definitely not be better off without you. I hope you can find the strength to tell someone, it would lift a weight off you to share this.

Hi Hoophopes, I am praying for you too.

[amillionyears]

Catree, your post has been bothering me a lot since you wrote it.
I will pray for you.
When you say that other people have said that ss might be informed, is that because of stuff you have read on MN?

You clearly love your boys very much.
I pray that you get healing and the help that you need.