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Do you ever get time just with him? It sounds like an attention seeking behaviour to me. I realise that with 3 small children that's next to impossible, but he was with you first.

No, not really, although I do try to find time to stroke him a bit most days. He definitely doesn't get as much attention as he did in the early days, I understand that. He was my first 'baby', I guess he's just a bit snubbed at the turn things have taken.

if he comes near you while you're washing up, just give him a little stroke, likewise if you're just passing him in the hallway just a soft touch. How old are the children, would the eldest help with keeping him entertained? My friends ds is 9 and still loves dangling toys for my two to play with.

i'd take him to the vet to check him over.

i had a cat that got agressive with everyone but not me, turns out he was poorly

i dont mean to panic you, but i'd seek a vets advice cause sometimes it's because they are in pain.

I found this book, Cat Confidential really useful in helping to understand my cats' behaviour.

Also, I recall I got some stuff from my vet which helps to calm cats down - it was like a plug in fragrance thing. Ground valarian tablets (from Boots - sleep remedies) also help to calm cats. It won't get to the root of the problem, but may help alleviate things.