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Titania Wed 23-Feb-05 14:34:34

I'm getting rid of my dog......she went for someone for no reason It was someone she had seen numerous times before and all she did was say hello to her and he lunged at her snarling and barking and growling.......I am so upset and shaken. I brought her home and shut her in the kitchen. It sounds horrid but I almost hate her at the moment. What if it had been one of the kids...either mine or one at school where I take her......oh god...the thought of it alone scares the life...thank god she didn't actually get them (for the fact I had her on a short lead) Thank god it was someone I knew who didn't report me....I am too scared to go out with her now and I have told the kids not to go anywhere near her without me. I can't live like this for another 10 years. I text DH and he just said 'oh she will be ok' what if she has one of our kids??? I am not prepared to take that chance even if he is....its ok for him.....he goes to work....he's not the one who has got to deal with her all the time. Shes not just protective of me she is obsessed....I can't even go to the toilet without her barking after me.

FIL is going to get ds1 from school for me this afternoon....I am too shaken and panicky to go out now....

So go on........say I told you so........

Gwenick Wed 23-Feb-05 14:35:43

awww Titania - don't know the background behind this but don't feel bad it's not your fault.

lunavix Wed 23-Feb-05 14:36:20

There is no 'I told you so hun' it's just you have to make the choice that's best for your family.

If it means getting rid of Molly, then I'm so sorry. But like you know, the kids come first.

wobblyknicks Wed 23-Feb-05 14:36:35

Awww, poor you. No-one should say i told you so, you couldn't have known and you did the best you could. You're right that you have to get rid of her though, as unfortunate as that it.

So sorry

(((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

tarantula Wed 23-Feb-05 14:37:38

Oh Titania Im so sorry to hear this esp after all the hard work you ahve put into looking after your dog and how much you like her. Im afraid I know nothhing about dogs so cant comment on her behaviour etc. Jusst wanted to offer my best wishes.

alicatsg Wed 23-Feb-05 14:37:51

Sorry, not going to say told you so as I don't think you deserve it.

Sorry you've had such a scary experience. Have to say I'd probably come to the same conclusion as you in the circs.

take care

Tiggiwinkle Wed 23-Feb-05 14:39:22

She is a GSD isn't she Titania? How old is she now-if I remember rightly she is still very young to be so aggressive?

Titania Wed 23-Feb-05 14:40:48

yes she is tiggy....she is only 18 weeks old.....

lilsmum Wed 23-Feb-05 14:43:14

how old is molly now titania? i am sorry you have to get rid of her...we have had our moments with taffy but i think that is how it is with pups...they are hard work and they dont realise when they are doing right from wrong, its up to the owners to teach, the other thing i feel comes into it (to a certain degree) is the breed, my dp has grown up with german sheperds but i felt that was the wrong breed of dog to go for (dd is only 1)i know and have grown up with labs and they are an excellent family dog, very placid etc so we went with him (but even he is testing my patience at the mo)

good luck xx

Twiglett Wed 23-Feb-05 14:44:35

thank god you found out before she actually bit someone, rather than just lunged

you are doing the right thing

cat82 Wed 23-Feb-05 14:44:50

I know i've said all of this already but just to reiterate:

I know it's hard but it has happened to other people. I know for a fact it has, so it's not your fault she's unpredictable. You have made the right decision to send her away, which must have been very, very hard. NOTHING has happened to the kids, so feel happy about that, don't focus on what could have happened.
The most important thing is that your kids are safe.
No one's going to judge you or say i told you so hun!
{{{hugs}}}

Gumdrop Wed 23-Feb-05 14:45:27

I'm sorry, Titania, must have been an awful decision to make. I don't know what area you are in, but is it worth seeing if there is a specialist gsd rehoming group near you, or maybe contact local gsd association and they may know of someone who can take her?

You've got to be happy with your dog though, and if you're worried that she will always be so aggressive to everyone outside the family, you're not going to enjoy her as much.

Titania Wed 23-Feb-05 14:52:58

i would have to give her back to the centre....its in the contract i signed when i took her on that if i couldnt keep her i would have to return the dog to them. Oh god......they will love that.....after all the allegations against me were made and the amount i fought to keep her...that cow at the centres going to have a field day and the last laugh against me....she will be the first to say i told you so.....i feel sick....

Keane Wed 23-Feb-05 14:55:29

can you please explain what you mean when you say she went for someone? graphically I mean?

and 18 week old pup does not know how to behave, it has to .be trained

a dog woulkd not be obsessed with you

Gumdrop Wed 23-Feb-05 14:59:03

I know the kind of woman you mean .......... (shudder) but if it's in your family's best interests and ultimately in Molly's best interests, then don't worry about it. You won't be the first to have taken a dog back, or passed it on to someone else, that's why they have that clause in the agreement - and you sure as hell won't be the last.

Don't beat yourself up about it - I'm sure this happens all the time.

Chandra Wed 23-Feb-05 15:00:26

Forget about the woman at the center or smile when handing it back and say, you were right I'm sorry.

You don't say if she actually bite the person, some dogs are aggressive by nature some others need to be trained to restrain themselves (I have a tiny yorkie who was prepared to fight an Irish Mastin just by using the same park, but after some handy instructions from the trainer she is fine, they don't even bark at people walking accross the window and the only problem we have with visitors is that they are over enthusiastic about them, so, there's hope).

SeaShells Wed 23-Feb-05 15:04:12

Aww Titania, so sorry to hear this, after all the trouble you had with the centre recently aswell, I'm sure they'll understand, wishing you all the best. (((((hugs)))))

Titania Wed 23-Feb-05 15:08:29

final straw...she has just bitten me......

CountessDracula Wed 23-Feb-05 15:09:46

Is she normally dominant? Is she biting or play-biting?

This all sounds like a terrible shame, sorry Titania You must be gutted.

Chandra Wed 23-Feb-05 15:10:21

Take her back Titania, if you can't manage it safely lock her in a room and ring for help. Maybe the center could collect her?

Tiggiwinkle Wed 23-Feb-05 15:15:05

Are you absolutely sure she is being aggrssive Titania? It is very unusual for a dog of this age-do you think she could possibly be "playing"? GSDs need very firm boundaries as you know-they will usually just be testing the boundaries at this age.

Chandra Wed 23-Feb-05 15:21:25

Agree with the boundaries and playing stuff, however as the string of dog trainers has repeated: You need to show her that you can be more of a b**ch than her to gain her respect. It works promise, but some dogs need some heavy duty signals to realise and even to master the right voice pitch to give an order it's an art.

However, if you are scared from her, take her back, it would be very difficult for you. It's not worth it.

Titania Wed 23-Feb-05 19:20:27

DH has come home and gone mad at me, like its all my fault. I said that if he had spent more time with her then she wouldn't be so posessive of me.

when he cooled down he said that ultimately it was my choice whether or not she stays.

75% of me will never trust her inthe same way again.

I just keep thinking about how i felt when i was little and my mum got me a puppy and then took him away from me again I don't want my kids to feel like that and I don't want to turn into my mum

Titania Wed 23-Feb-05 19:21:27

DH has just gone to the shop and Molly is sat in the kitchen just staring at me barking like mad at me......

CountessDracula Wed 23-Feb-05 19:23:16

Titania, she probably wants to play with you!

Honestly I think you are getting a bit paranoid tbh. All pups go through phases of being clingy with one or another of their humans. I can remember ours being so into dh that she could barely look at me for a while, then she switched alliegence

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