New puppy please helpppp!!!(23 Posts)
Just got a new puppy. Everything was fine when we got her home she's going on the puppy pad to wee not quite learned to go for a poo on there.
Now last night she was crying every 2 hours so got her out the cage for a wee and poo fine put her back in the cage fine. Then same again 2 hours later.
I was up for work at 6:30 and couldn't get ready properly because she wanted out the cage and was running round my room. She was crying when I put her back in the cage to take DD to school so put the cage open in the bathroom so she had free run of the place In there. She was crying still and I felt so shitty and keep thinking she's going to be sad for the rest of her bloody life and will hate me.
I've come home from the school before work and could hear her still crying from the front door.
Can anyone give any tips to make it easier or if I'm doing anything wrong please let me know. I'm so nervous with her and more nervous with this dog than when I was pregnant and giving birth. Will this pass and it's because she's in new surroundings?
You can’t leave a puppy alone. You need to have the pup by you. Even when you sleep. Carry to school or have someone watch her. Who’s watching her when you’re at work?
Puppy pads aren’t a good idea. They reach a dog to go to the toilet indoors. Take your pup out on a lead after food or drink or sleep or playing and every half an hour too. Praise when she goes. If she doesn’t then you need to watch her like a hawk and take her back out at the first sign of needing to go.
When you say ‘just got ‘ , how long have you had her ? Then I agree with what the pp said .
My partner will be here and mum when he's not will come over. She has been sleeping in my room.
So when she wakes up in the night I need I to take her outside? I'll carry her to school in the morning aswell then was going to take her for the pick up later but will do both. Thank you
Do away with the pads and always outside for toileting , by using pads you are teaching her that it’s ok to pee and poo indoors and then you will have to retrain her to go outside . Just clean up any indoor accidents with an appropriate cleaner that gets rid of the smell ( to the dog ) .
We've had two puppies (separately) and have always left them. Firstly for short periods and extending those after a period of time. Otherwise you'll never be able to leave them alone! The crying will stop - it's a new environment. Try putting an item of your clothing in with them overnight. It might be that they're lonely and just want to be near you - the clothing should help with that if it smells like you.
@siantwinmum leaving a pup to cry can cause separation anxiety later on. Pup has just been taken from the only home and family it’s ever known. Keeping it with you until it has settled and is more confident is the best idea.
OP if she’s crying in the night and then goes to the toilet when you take her out then it shows she needs to go. Puppies have teeny tiny bladders and can’t initially hold it all night.
OP, if you're carrying pup to school please check if she's allowed onto school grounds. You may need to waive your DC off at the gate and stay on the pavement. Certainly at our school, dogs aren't allowed onto school property, even if carried.
Thanks everyone. She is constantly crying when she is being held or can't see you. Can't get anything done at the moment. She's only falling asleep on me as well
I hate puppy pads too. I didn't use them and was just religious about taking the puppy out every half an hour then increased it in small increments. I do not miss those days!
How many weeks is she. Did the breeder give you some toilet training tips?
Oh and you need to get used to not being able to get anything done. They are like your shadow for such a long time!
Don’t use puppy pads, house training is easier without them. The crate is fine in the kitchen. When you’re there take her outside every 30 minutes for the toilet and also after food and after a game.
You will also need to get up in the night until her bladder is big enough to go through the night.
Don’t be afraid to leave her in the crate and go out, she has to get used to it.
You’ll get a lot of replies if you ask to move this over to the doghouse section. Firstly, ditch pads they don’t help. How old is the puppy? Some people keep crates in their room but we had ours in the living room. Will someone be around all day for your puppy?
Thanks everyone for your replies.
I'm feeling very very overwhelmed. The lack of sleep, constantly cleaning her mess, not going to the toilet in peace or getting a shower without thinking what she's doing. This morning I left her in the crate for 15 mins if that to take dd to school (it was raining so didn't want to take dog) came back and I could hear her howling crying before I came back in. She had poo'd everywhere in her cage all over the bars over her toys.
Just don't know what else I can do. Sounds really stupid but I feel depressed.
You're feeling the puppy blues. It's so common - if you haven't had a puppy before it's difficult to understand how tough it can be.
Head over the the Doghouse and join one of the puppy support threads. They're filled with advice and stories from people going through the same thing.
It gets easier!
I find puppies harder work than newborns, don't think I'll have any more of either 😂
I know it's hard work but it's just a stage, how old is puppy? My puppy used to steal dirty underwear and eat them, chew carpets, stairs, table legs, cushions, kitchen floor tiles, Christmas trees, Christmas decorations, shampoo bottles. You name it, he destroyed it even though he had numerous toys, teddies, things meant for him to destroy to get the reward/treats.
We did use training pads, longer process but worked for us as we only had a tiny concrete balcony and no garden to let dog out into, he eventually learnt how to hold his bladder until his walks and still now 5 years later refuses to go unless out on a walk.
As for the crying it's a learning process and unfortunately some puppies take longer to learn than others, what breed is puppy?
I've had five puppies in my dog owning life. I've made all sorts of mistakes!
What I found worked best for me was leaving the puppy downstairs in the kitchen overnight. I don't like crates and although it's to be expected that the kitchen will be messy in the morning, it's contained mess. The puppy has its own little bed and I do actually put pads near the door when they are very young. When I say overnight I obviously mean a very late bedtime and very early morning, say six hours maximum.
The crying will stop after a couple of nights and I can assure you that I've had nothing but well attached, well behaved and loving dogs as adults
Oh and I so so sympathise OP, I don't think I'll have another puppy when my elderly dog dies, the thought of the exhaustion is too much
I just feel so so sad. I live in an apartment aswell so it is harder. Just wish I could take her out.
I'm in work and feel so anxious about her I honestly don't think I can cope much longer. Luckily the pup is my cousins and he has said I can always take her back. But the thought of taking her back is making me upset.
You've just got to persevere with how you want things, if you want pup in a cage while your out then continue doing that. Maybe take all her toys out and any cushion just leave a blanket and a small kong in until she gets used to it, then it's easier to clean up. Warn your neighbours you have the puppy and they may hear crying for short periods through the day, like when you do the school run. Don't give any attention to the dirt anywhere but the pads/outside, make a huge deal of anything that is positive, sit on the floor with pup and make sure when she's playing you pat her and use a higher pitch voice. If she's crying at you then remove the attention, make sure to give her attention once she tries being quiet. It's never too early to try train your dog to how you want them to be.
So when you’re doing the school run or at work is your dp or mum actually looking after the pup or is the pup being left alone?
Puppies are exhausting and seriously hard work. People really underestimate how awful the early days are, sorry.
If you have a code word for going to the loo, she will get to know it, ours is "go wee wee" so when we say that he knows he's going outside. Then when she does the wee/poo, you have to give her a treat instantly and make a fuss of her so she knows it's a good thing to do.
Can't help with the crate training as ours never settled into one. Luckily I work from home so it wasn't a big issue and now we feel comfortable leaving him in the living room knowing he won't destroy anything.
Do you mean you’re using puppy pads instead of taking her outside to the toilet? That’s really not a good idea.
Honestly? Doesn’t sound like you’re in a good place to have a puppy.
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