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My cat was run over and I can't stop crying

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trocatroc Mon 12-Oct-15 21:29:21

I posted on here about a year ago when my cat went missing. He came back after 3 days and I was over moon. On Thursday he went missing again. I was searching all over for him, frantic with worry, put posters up everywhere, called round all of my neighbours etc. On Saturday night I was getting awful prank calls from a person pretending to have my cat. Sadly I got a call from a lady on my road this afternoon to tell me the bad news, he has been run over and he has passed away. My flatmate had to go an identify him because I couldn't do it. I am devastated and cannot stop crying. I will miss him so very much and can't stand to think of him being in pain and alone like that. I can't believe that this afternoon I was having to decide if he should be cremated or buried. I took him in at 3 weeks old and bottle fed him, our bond was deep. He was 3 and a half years old. I just feel so guilty for having moved to London and not having him re-homed instead. I can't believe he won't ever come in through the cat flap again. I hope this is normal feeling this way because this heart break is worse than any break up I've had before. I guess I just needed to vent because I'm feeling so low right now. I'm so sorry to people who have experienced great loss and may think this trivial but I really need some words of comfort right now if anyone has any spare.

Wotsitsareafterme Mon 12-Oct-15 21:31:49

It is a great loss. My very cherished parrot died in my hands a few weeks ago. I was bloody devastated and yes, more than by any break up too. I understand sad brew

IguanaTail Mon 12-Oct-15 21:32:12

Oh you poor thing. I would be devastated if that had happened to my cat. He was your buddy. sad I'm so sorry

Toughasoldboots Mon 12-Oct-15 21:35:53

It's normal, I lost a cat on the road just after moving a few years ago, the guilt was unbearable.
Dh was inconsolable for weeks. I am so sorry. If only cats had road sense, they live their lives how they want and have fun, albeit for a shorter time often. flowers

Gileswithachainsaw Mon 12-Oct-15 21:37:22

Oh I'm so sorry sad

not just for the loss of your beloved cat but fir having to endure such cruel tricks.

arse holes the lot of them.

I'm sure he you loved him.

truly sorry about your cat.

sweet dreams precious kitten star

idril Mon 12-Oct-15 21:39:09

My cat died nearly 2 years ago and it was honestly the hardest thing that I've been through. (Admittedly, I've been lucky that no-one close to me has died).

I felt like I would never get over it. He was my first baby and he adored me. I felt terribly guilty too because he had to be put down and I really wanted the vet to come and do it at home because he'd been at the vet for 2 nights and I really couldn't bear to take him back. But in the end, he was too poorly and I had to take him and it was horrific.

It will get better, I promise. I still get upset when I think about it too deeply but it doesn't occupy my every waking moment like it did at first.

You gave him a great life and someone said to me that the pain we go through when they die is the price we have to pay for the love and joy we get from them whilst they are alive.

calcium123 Mon 12-Oct-15 21:39:23

This must be one of the hardest things my dog of 15 years is so poorly and I can't imagine how I'm going to cope. So sorry for ur loss not everyone will understand

Orange1969 Mon 12-Oct-15 21:40:49

So very sorry - bloody drivers going too fast.

I lost three cats when I was a child - all to speeding cars.


LurcioAgain Mon 12-Oct-15 21:41:00

We lost a cat a few years back, also run over, and DS and I spent a whole evening on the sofa crying. flowers

The worst of it does pass, and two years on we finally felt able to get a new cat. She doesn't replace our old one- she's v different and she has her own personality - but she is lovely, and it feels good to know we've taken in a rescue cat.

Just cry all you need and eat chocolate

BestIsWest Mon 12-Oct-15 21:41:41

flowers I'm so sorry. I lost my beloved dog in August. I still cry everyday. A four legged member of the family is still family.

Toughasoldboots Mon 12-Oct-15 21:41:53

I hope you don't think this is insensitive but I posted on here when my cat got run over and someone told me that in time, I should fill the cat shaped hole in my life as so many in rescue waiting for homes. I did and it really did help me.

Pipbin Mon 12-Oct-15 21:43:57

So sorry. There is nothing I can say that will make you feel any better.
But if anyone dares to say, 'its just a cat' you have my permission to punch then right square in the face.

trocatroc Mon 12-Oct-15 21:48:25

Thank you everyone. I really appreciate you taking the time to talk to me. I just miss him so much. I hope he wasn't in pain for too long.He was 3 1/2 years and I think he really thought I was his mum. I have another cat (his sister) who is doing her best to console me, I think she misses him too. I should probably admit at this point that I don't have any kids - I just think the people on this forum are so kind. I was awful to receive the prank calls, they were demanding money and all sorts, at midnight on Saturday. It's really the last thing you need.

Toughasoldboots Mon 12-Oct-15 21:54:24

It was probably really quick, he wouldn't have known anything about it. The sort of people who make prank calls to someone missing their animal are only to be pitied and will never know the love of a pet (hopefully).

ThomasRichard Mon 12-Oct-15 21:54:27

sad I'm sorry OP. I lost my childhood cat as a teenager and I grieved for a very long time afterwards.

Last week I scooped a cat off the pavement that had been hit by a car near my house. Sadly the vet had to put it down. I keep wondering whether the owners (live on my road) would appreciate a note from me to tell them that their cat was wrapped up warm in a blanket and talked to all the way to the vet, so they know it was cared for.

calcium123 Mon 12-Oct-15 21:55:17

I don't have any kids either my dog is my child however that sounds. 15 years of looking after him. Your cat was ur family don't let anyone tell u no different and we grieve for there loss like we would a human

calcium123 Mon 12-Oct-15 21:56:42

Thomas Richard

You should tell them !! I would feel so much better to hear that i think that is such a needed thing u must do honestly. I don't think u realise how much difference that will make

Gileswithachainsaw Mon 12-Oct-15 22:02:19

i think.they would thomas

people can be so harsh, driving off and leaving them. I think it would be a huge comfort for know someone cared.

I believe in karma and those scumbags who made those calls will get theirs.

I'm. Sure it would have been quick did an amazing job, raising baby animals without their mum is so hard, they really have the odds stacked against them when that happens. shows just how hard you worked and how much love you have fir him. you literally performed a miracle flowers

be kind to yourself and cry all you want to. pets are so special

trocatroc Mon 12-Oct-15 22:04:26

Thomas Richard

That was a lovely thing you did, to help a poor cat in his final moments. I personally couldn't stand not knowing what had happened to my cat. The agony of not knowing if he's still dead or alive, so I would tell them.

Sleepybeanbump Mon 12-Oct-15 22:07:34

Oh op I'm so sorry. You miss them so much, and it's so awful worrying about then being frightened or in pain. I lost a childhood cat to a RTA and we cried for days. We had builders around at the time and they cried!! A neighbour found him and wrapped him up for us. It meant a huge amount.

This will pass, but I totally understand your pain and it's completely normal to be feeling it. Pets are a huge part of our lives.

LurcioAgain Mon 12-Oct-15 22:13:45

Thomas Richard - I never got the chance to say thank you to the lovely couple who took our cat to the vet (they didn't leave any contact details) so I'm going to say thank you to you instead. It meant a tremendous amount to us that someone cared enough to carry him there and that we got to know what happened to him and didn't have to live with the uncertainty. You did a really lovely thing.

TellitToTheTrees Mon 12-Oct-15 22:22:31

I'm so sorry :-(
We lost one of our cats a few years ago the same way. Dh and I and dc were devastated. I cried none stop for a whole day and then on and off for a week. It was grim. I was lucky a neighbour had seen his body and called me so I was able to move him before dc saw him but I wish I hadn't had to. I think you did the right thing sending your flatmate in the circumstances.

Sorry again, he will leave a little cat shaped hole and maybe, as another poster said, one day in the future you could fill it with another little one needing rescuing. We did and although we have never forgotten our previous cats, it has been a comfort giving other rescue cats a home.

Be kind to yourself brew cake

trocatroc Mon 12-Oct-15 23:11:49

I'm so sorry about your parrot Wotsitsareafterme sad

trocatroc Mon 12-Oct-15 23:15:24

I'm so sorry about your dog BestIsWest, that must have been awful sad

Cirsium Mon 12-Oct-15 23:23:39

So sorry about your lovely cat. Try not to feel guilty about it, my parents lived in a very rural area with loads of fields for the cat's to play in and still lost one to the road. You gave him a great life. flowers

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