What would you do in my situation?

[YanknCock]

Be patient please, I swear this does have to do with pedantry! I had a very bad bout of antenatal depression early this year and was referred to the community mental health team in our area. A lovely social worker has been coming to visit me. She used to visit weekly, but since I've been feeling a lot better in the last two months or so, she's not coming around as often. At her last visit she gave me a report she'd written about my progress.

I really like this woman and she's been very helpful and supportive, but the report made me want to gouge out my eyes! Every instance of 'your' was written as 'you're' (I estimate at least 40 times). She left it with me saying, 'let me know if you think there should be any changes'. Now I know she meant the substance of the report (which is fine), but my god, I really want to edit this thing properly! There are probably other grammatical issues too.

Is it too cheeky of me to correct this report? I don't want to insult her. I suppose it doesn't make a difference in terms of my care. The pedant in me, however, is poised with a red pen.

[hester]

Step away from the red pen!

No, seriously, you must... though I do feel your pain.

[Disenchanted3]

Can you photo copy it and correct the copy just to get it out of your system?

[nellynaemates]

So she was writing as though she was addressing you? As in "Your ability to cope with blah blah was very impressive...."?

Isn't that an odd way of writing a report anyway? Is it just for you to see, because if not she should be writing "patient x" or "she" surely? Or have I got the wrong end of the stick>?

I really wouldn't correct her grammar though, tempting as it may be

[YanknCock]

There are 4 different documents. Two refer to me as 'Yank' all the way through, and they are the risk screening and risk assessment. The Care Plan and Review Document both address me. I guess they're not really reports in a traditional sense, more like boxes filled in on a grid, if that makes any sense---headers are Problems, Actions Required, Aims, Responsibility. Then each row has a short paragraph under each header. For example, under Problems, 'You're options for medication are limited due to you're pregnancy.' Under Actions, 'You're GP will prescribe medication.'.

I guess I have to leave it, but am wondering if her supervisor (who will read these documents) would say something about this? If I suggested corrections now, would that save her embarrassment at work? Or does no one care about spelling anymore?

[Molesworth]

Nooo, I think it would be wildly inappropriate to correct her in this situation. I'd just read it with this look on my face ... and leave it.

[KristinaM]

sorry i agree with the others...walk away from the red pen

if you correct her spelling/grammar she won't understand your motives and she will misjudge you for it

[YanknCock]

Fair enough then, I will leave it alone. She's just so lovely, I hate the idea of her filing this report with all these mistakes and someone judging her for it in her workplace. I suppose it could be even more embarrassing having a client pointing it out though.

[campion]

If it's any consolation - I once witnessed a serious incident ( ABH) and was interviewed by the Police. They said it would be helpful to write down the details of the incident whilst it was still fresh in my mind and they'd be round in a day or two. So I did and when a nice policewoman came she read my account and said ' wow, this is good. Can I copy this out as your witness statement?'
So she did and then she handed me the copy to read and then sign as a true account.

And it was full of the most basic errors! a) She couldn't even copy something accurately despite it being there on a plate for her and b) I had to sign the bloody thing whilst itching to correct it ( and her). Of course, I said nothing

Furthermore, I'm trying to forget how much of a farce the whole case was. But they were unfailingly nice to me