Depends what sort of party, if it's at someones house I wouldn't be suprised if there was alcohol if at a soft play type place obviously no alcohol. I had dd1's 5th birthday at a social club (she was mad on disco's) and there was a bar I didn't notice if anyone ordered anything alcoholic but wouldn't have minded if they had, wouldn't have been very impressed if anyone had got drunk though but one or two is ok imo (if not driving).
thank you all. you have made me feel much better. we dont drink alcohol at home, and usually only do family parties at home, so never any alcohol, (asian) but doing a kids party with all my friends from school, who have known me to have a drink. so they may see it as hypocritical for not having any at home. there will be lots andlots of food. party games, and prizes. so hopefully no one will go away thinking it was a waste of an afternoon
What sort of party? How grown up will it be? If it's sitting on the floor with jelly in your hair, then alcohol would be weird. But if it's a garden party with kids romping aound and adults chatting, I would probably serve some wine.