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a chestnut: how do you say "no presents" on a birthday invitation? -

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Bink Fri 28-Sep-07 17:43:25

- and/or "well if you really want to a book would be nice"?

Or once you've said no presents are you in birthday Siberia and you richly deserve the dusty box of chocolate-dipped ants?

Trinityrhino Fri 28-Sep-07 17:45:54

you could put

'no presents just your presence' and you will get some presents but people will think you are wonderful grin

msappropriate Fri 28-Sep-07 17:47:00

my dh did this recently on his 40th birthday and just wrote no pressies please.

fryalot Fri 28-Sep-07 17:48:36

I've done this and just written "no presents required, I just want you to come along"

Some brought presents anyway, some didn't

And if you get a dusty box of chocolate-tipped ants, send them over here, I don't mind sucking the chocolate off grin

3Ddonut Fri 28-Sep-07 17:49:19

'we understand that you would probably like to buy (child's name) a birthday present but he/she really has more than enough toys, if you feel you would like to buy a gift however, may we suggest a book or a voucher for an activity?' Thankyou. ?????

It's a bit long winded I suppose, but it gets the point across.

RubyRioja Fri 28-Sep-07 17:52:03

some good ideas here!

Now can someone phrase nicely for me
'please for the love of god, not more pink sparkly tat. DD would love a gift, but a book or a voucher would be nice ta'grin

TIA

3Ddonut Fri 28-Sep-07 18:02:02

If you get that, put nicely, I'm pinching it!

fryalot Fri 28-Sep-07 18:04:10

how about:

" this year we are not asking for any presents, however if you feel strongly that you want to buy something, please feel free to donate some money to the 'keep mum in alcohol fund' you can donate by cash, cheque and all major credit cards... sort code and account number on request"

Flibbertyjibbet Fri 28-Sep-07 18:11:50

I usually ask what children would like if mine are the invitees.
If we are having the party I am just glad that people turn up, and have realised that I just have to put up with the tat presents.
IMO if the parents don't ask what you specifically want then don't give specifications for presents - if any are like me they will have lots of tat presents in the cupboard bought en masse in the sales ready to give out and an instruction for something different would really annoy me!

RubyRioja Fri 28-Sep-07 18:12:52

Oh nice squonk! the mum booze fund is very me!

Cards arrived yesterday btw - dds v happy!

Bink Fri 28-Sep-07 22:56:54

ah flibberty, what you say is exactly why I was worrying ...

Thanks everyone! I am still mulling over this one.

wishingchair Sat 29-Sep-07 11:50:50

So you just put the dodgy presents back in the cupboard ready to be recycled for the next poor soul's party ... and they make great donations to the school raffles/tombolas etc.

whomovedmychocolate Sat 29-Sep-07 11:55:13

The village mums with babies have made an agreement here that there will be no party bags and no pressies at parties. Just jelly and custard and cake. We are hard core mummies grin

schilke Mon 01-Oct-07 12:24:24

Ds2 recently went to a party and the invite said something along the lines of .. instead of a present please donate to the NSPCC. It had an account name and I think the partygiver gets told afterwards how much they raised.

Hulababy Mon 01-Oct-07 12:27:30

Is it for a child?

Only problem with this I would find is that some people will still turn up with presents, and that might then make those who don't feel a bit odd at the time IYSWIM.

Also some people like choosing presents. DD adores chosing a present for her little friends. She'd not be happy at not taking a present with her to a party.

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