DD (soon to be 4) went to a party a few weeks ago and took a present etc, Now it's her birthday in a couple of weeks and the same little friend will be on holiday. But her mum said she had got DD a little present anyway - which I thought was really nice. Both DD's quite like each other and get on because they have the same unusual name though spelled diiferent.
Another of DD's friends, who I dont know of so well was invited to DD's party and DD got an invite to her party the next day - although short notice up to party day, so I am guessing she was'nt going to be invited until we sent ours....keeping up so far?
Now I dont dont know if this little girl will come to DD's party yet, but I have left a message on her mums mobile saying DD cant make it and looking forward to seeing if her DD can come to ours. Question is - should I get this little girl a present as the other mum did for my DD.
My thinkning is I dont know her as well, and I have lots of goodies and activities at DD's party, (equivilant to about £5+ a child - depending on what they get from the Pinata) I think this is enough to level out the no gift for her friend cos we cant make the party.
If I have'nt confused you all, what do you think? Dont want to get in to a give and receive thing. But unless the other mum had'nt got DD a gift I would never have thought about doing it anyway.
In general I buy presetns for kids when DS goes to their birthday party, if he gets an invite and can't go then I don't bother with a present.
There would be exceptions to his, i.e. his best friend etc
I would do the same - small present when going to a party, no present if not but would give a present anyway to a close friend
I have a party etiquette question (hope you don't mind me hijacking your thread a bit )- I only have 20 places at dd1's party and lots of them are taken up by cousins and ante-natal friends. One old friend has 2 siblings that dd1 doesn't really play with - is it okay just to invite the friend and not the sibs even though the Mum is a friend of mine? It's just that there's not going to be a lot of room for school friends otherwise and as she has just started school I want some to come.
Thanks for the opinions, glad you're all the same as me
Jacanne, we also ahve the same problem for the party. So I have invited say the sibling DD does play with and in our case because I am hiring a hall, told the parents of those I know that they can bring the younger one to play on the stuff I've hired etc but that I wont be doing food (I've got those individual boxes with cup and crisp scoop included so only enough for party goers), but for a few spare crisps and cakes, and they wont get a party bag either.
Most are happy with that as the younger ones in this case wont know the difference.
My ds is just one so party ettiquette is a mystery to me. We have been invited to our first ever party, which is a first birthday party which is also a joint party for the baby's older sibling. Should I take a present for the older child as well? I also wondered if people usually gave the parents something as well to say thank you for going to all the trouble of organising the party, eg a bottle of wine or chocolates? Thanks for any advice, and apologies for hi-jacking.