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Wedding Vow Renewal...nice or naff?!

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Blossom4538 · 01/01/2020 20:10

Considering this...we’ve been married over ten years and have had challenging times (not relationship wise)

Thinking something very low key and a fun celebration, as although I enjoyed our day, I spent my wedding day exhausted, feeling like an ugly, fat bride, pretty anxious and feeling sick lol!! Didn’t like the large-ish gathering too much.

So nice or naff?! Any ideas welcome xx

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Blossom4538 · 01/01/2020 20:11

And as a leap year, to suggest it to H on Feb 29th, in a special way

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DuesToTheDirt · 01/01/2020 20:12

I don’t see the point personally.

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ChaosisntapitChaosisaladder19 · 01/01/2020 20:13

Naff most people think one of youve had affair especially after only ten years. Vows should last a lifetime unless broken.

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Obsidian77 · 01/01/2020 20:13

I think it's a nice idea

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TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 01/01/2020 20:14

Yeah I'd assume relationship problems or infidelity!!

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Doilooklikeatourist · 01/01/2020 20:15

Personally , I think it’s a bad idea
It always makes me think ‘ I wonder who cheated ‘

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statetrooperstacey · 01/01/2020 20:16

No, just have an anniversary party. Everybody will think one of you cheated. The only time this is nice is if the couple are 100 or something and celebrating their 80th anniversary. Otherwise, no.

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Floralnomad · 01/01/2020 20:17

No need to renew unless it’s been broken ,so I always assume someone has strayed . Also in the great scheme of things 10 yrs is not a very long time to have been married .

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cattaxi · 01/01/2020 20:19

I would also assume one of you’d had an affair!

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FruitcakeOfHate · 01/01/2020 20:19

Naff AF! A lot of people assume affair. There's no need to repeat vows you've already made. Worse, the sad, frustrated bridezilla who wants to indulge the silly Disney fantasy and have 'the day' and make a production of it and expect everyone else to show up and cheerlead. Yawn. It's embarrassing. Just go away for the weekend together, no need to expect others to participate yet again.

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OverByYer · 01/01/2020 20:20

Naff. Like others say normally dine after an affair

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ConstanceL · 01/01/2020 20:21

If you are happy for everyone to assume one of you had an affair then go for it! If not just have a anniversary party :)

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RomaineCalm · 01/01/2020 20:23

Sadly I would also assume that one of you had cheated. I know lots do like to renew their vows but once you're married I consider anniversaries to be a personal celebration until you get to 40/50/60 years,

I would spend the money on doing something nice to celebrate 10 years just the two of you.

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Notthisnotthat · 01/01/2020 20:24

DH and I were invited to a wedding vow renewal, after a random number of years, the bride had an affair, they then split up not long after the vow renewal as she was still she the OM.

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Emelene · 01/01/2020 20:24

You could just have a 10year anniversary party?

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RhymingRabbit3 · 01/01/2020 20:24

I would just do an anniversary party.

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MeanMrMustardSeed · 01/01/2020 20:24

V naff

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Teachermaths · 01/01/2020 20:25

Naff, everyone will think one of you had an affair. Just have a party.

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Ohyesiam · 01/01/2020 20:26

I don’t know anyone who has done this, so I can’t comment on it’s nafness or otherwise. But you could have a party and invite everyone you want there.

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AuntieStella · 01/01/2020 20:27

Just have a party.

Renewal will be widely assumed to mean affair (or other major crisis) unless it s part of a landmark anniversary celebration (at least 25 years, but by then you might prefer a silver party anyhow)

If you want to speak vows again, how about Vegas and do it with Elvis for a giggle

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Waterandlemonjuice · 01/01/2020 20:28

Naff AF

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user1493494961 · 01/01/2020 20:29

Naff.

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Blossom4538 · 01/01/2020 20:30

Oh wow, didn’t realise this was a thing, about cheating lol! 🤣🤣😬

We should have had a party for our tenth, it was a couple of years ago now. We don’t get to do much together due to certain circumstances and just be nice to do something special (not too expensive) - it’s been a rough few years (again, not relationship wise, although there’s been a lot of stress).

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InvisibleWomenMustBeRead · 01/01/2020 20:32

I think they're a lovely idea and wouldn't consider that anyone had cheated! That said, I'd have a massive party instead to celebrate the milestone rather than having a vow renewal but each to their own.

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FancyAMincePie · 01/01/2020 20:32

Naff

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