I'm New here. Don't know where to start but need to vent. We Had our child's birthday party recently. A family member asked if she could bring an extra child, said the child would be leaving early and wouldn't be eating as I explained the table had been set up for the correct amount of kids...came to food time and my other half's family member came over and asked where this child should sit. (She asked quite rudely)..I was already feeling stressed (have anxiety, parent to my first and only child and this was my first big party I'd planned) so I said "well (said child) should have been leaving early, that's what I was told. There probably isn't room at the table but if you find a space that's fine"..I did snap, I hold my hands up to that but her reply upset me "what are you stressed for?" With a smile..this person knows my history with anxiety and other mental health issues..I apologised later but then we found out this person had just taken a party bag without asking which could have potentially left us short on bags. Another family member bought a child that wasn't invited without even asking. We aren't petty, we don't mind an extra child coming to the party IF we've been asked but this particular child had been bought to the party I feel to prove a point as an invite hadn't been sent.
I'm glad our child enjoyed the party, it went smoothly apart from these things that popped up but I do feel we were taken advantage of. We are kind, caring people. We spent a lot of money on the party ( we aren't particularly well off) and it's left me feeling that people we trusted, people we thought were family have used us as a doormat and tried to wind us up on what should have been a very special day. What does everyone think? Am I overthinking this? Is this just anxiety talking? Am I being petty? It's put me off having another party for our child next year and it shouldn't be like that! I know now no matter what invites are sent out it'll be the same scenario all over again. I'm upset, angry and hurt. In my eyes manners and decency don't cost a thing. Anyone else been in a similar situation. What did you do? I'm torn between letting it drop or telling them exactly how it made us feel.
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