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Accidentally invited extra child to party

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user1488752596 · 05/03/2017 22:37

Oh dear - Somehow we've received an extra RSVP to our DS's 7th birthday party. Not quite sure how it happened - possibly a failure with pupil post. The thing is that it's a fairly expensive activity party and so we were only going to invite 6 of his friends. DS doesn't appear to be particularly close to this classmate but they seem nice enough.

What to do? Uninvite this person? Or find a way to squeeze in another?
What a dilemma!

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MoreThanUs · 05/03/2017 22:39

Find out how the mistake happened. If it was your 'fault' I think you need to honour the invite. Are you sure they are not just trying it on?

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FixItUpChappie · 05/03/2017 22:39

Make it work - definitely.

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DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 05/03/2017 22:39

You will need to squeeze them in. You can't uninvited them

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TheOnlyColditz · 05/03/2017 22:40

Squeeze in another. YOu absolutely cannot uninvite a small child from a party, you will go to hell

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Coconutty · 05/03/2017 22:40

Uninvite, and then report back.

I guarantee it will make it into classics.

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Supermagicsmile · 05/03/2017 22:41

Agree, find out how it happened

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Supermagicsmile · 05/03/2017 22:41

And act accordigly!

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Hissy · 05/03/2017 22:42

How many invitations did you actually send/give out?

Or was this a word of mouth thing? 7yo+ are notorious for making invitations off their own back
It could be a chancer parent...

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user1488752596 · 05/03/2017 22:52

Suspect it was another parent passing it on inadvertently (not going to attribute 'fault' here, I'm sure it wasn't intended or was a misunderstanding).

Even finding out how it happened is awkward: "Sure glad your child can come, look forward to seeing them; PS who invited you?" - Can't see how that conversation pans out well!

Shock

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age81 · 05/03/2017 23:15

So you didn't formerly send a written/text invite?

Somehow this child has responded to 'an invite' I'm sorry but that would b a NO from me. Why happens if more suddenly reply!

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CookieLady · 05/03/2017 23:19

Oh dear. I had a parent try to invite their dc to one of dc's party. I ignored their entitled request. But this is not something you can ignore. Why don't you ask them?

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wobblywonderwoman · 05/03/2017 23:21

I think I would let it go and bring them this time but I do think they are trying it on

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christinarossetti · 05/03/2017 23:21

How did you send out invitations?

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IhatchedaSnorlax · 05/03/2017 23:23

How were the invitations distributed?

Unless they were being deliberately presumptuous & forward, I think you have to just make it work.

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user1488752596 · 06/03/2017 07:34

I'm not sure doing a post-mortem of the distribution helps all that much. Doesn't change the facts. Don't think anyone is being pushy.

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Believeitornot · 06/03/2017 07:36

Maybe they thought the invite had got lost hence the reply.

So you'll have to suck it up and next time be very careful when handing out invites.

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user1483387154 · 06/03/2017 07:42

If you accidentally invited them then you need to suck it up and make it work. If they were invited by someone else then explain that you were only able to invite 6 children, they all accepted and you are unable to add extra people this time.

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Hissy · 06/03/2017 10:04

Knowing HOW you invited people to this party is the key point in all this!

If it was word of mouth, it's open to confusion.

or if your dc offers an invitation that wasn't intended, and you can't add anyone to the already agreed list, you absolutely can say "sorry, dc has gone and invited more than you can cater to, and you'll def add them to the list if someone can't come". Otherwise in this scenario you kind of probably do have to see if you can include them.

If the invitations were paper and not given to the child, but the parent has got wind of it, you absolutely can correct this.

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christinarossetti · 06/03/2017 16:08

Well, it sounds like you know that the mistake was yours, so yes you do need to find a way to squeeze in another child, I would say.

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Nicpem1982 · 08/03/2017 19:29

How do you accidentally invite extra people?

I think you should honor it

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