help!

[isabellarockerfella]

I have just provisionally booked a party for my DD's 6th birthday but only 25 children are included in the price, I can pay extra for more children but money is quite tight and there are 30 children in her class plus an extra 2 that I need to invite. They are a few that she is not bothered about inviting but I feel really mean excluding 7 children out of 30. What should I do?

[Toobluntforboss]

I personally would invite everyone as would hate the thought of my child being 1 of the 7 excluded. However it seems ridiculous to pay for a party if you can't afford it so not sure what you can do really.

[HuwEdwards]

Keep the number small enough so that it's not just a few children who feel excluded - say 12 (+ the extra 2). Just because 25 are included in the price doesn't mean you have to invite 25 - specially as your DD is not bothered about a few of them.

[isabellarockerfella]

It may seem ridiculous to you but im not going to go into debt over it - its just tight and having to pay an extra £5 per head makes things even tighter. Kids from her class have had parties there and she's not always been invited so its swings and roundabouts really. Also I dont really see the point in only inviting 12 kids, its like paying for a full trolley of shopping and then only taking half of it home.

[HuwEdwards]

Well why ask then? you clearly have 2 options with the party you've chosen, but you don't want to pay the extra and you don't want to reduce the numbers so as not let a handful of kids down.

Presumably then, you want someone to say 'that's fine, don't worry about the 7'

Well you may wait some time.

[isabellarockerfella]

Ooooh! Nice, just wanted some advice that's all. Cheers!

[Toobluntforboss]

You have been given advice so it's up to you to take it or not. I would simply reiterate again how you would feel if the vast majority of your daughters class were invited to a party and she was one of the very few who weren't.