Last year my DD had her party at a play place. She invited a good friend of hers, who has a younger sister. Her younger sister wasn't a party guest, but was brought along by her Mum, who paid to get her into the play place. All good so far.
Not so good was the fact that the Mum then took the little one into all aspects of the party. It was a hair and nails party. Little one was sat down for hair and nails to be done; little one lined up with all the party guests for the party disco, party games and dinner. Even though I kept reminding the party organisers (discreetly) that she wasn't on the list, it did cause a problem when I tracked down my niece to get her to the party room to find that they had done a head count, got the 'right' number by including the little sister and started the party. On entering the party room there wasn't a seat for her....you can guess who was sat at the table instead. Grrrr. The year before, on leaving the party we were a balloon and party bag short because the same Mum took two. I had a word this time and managed to avoid that. I did tell the Mum at the time that they kept counting her little one as a party guest, and she pulled a face, but didn't do anything about it. I was too polite to cause a big fuss.
At a friend's daughter's party, same Mum brought her little one again, and again asked if she could join in with the party. She did pay for an extra place, but it annoyed me. If it were my DD, she would be aware that there was a child at the party that she hadn't put on her list.
I know that some people have to take siblings along with them due to childcare issues, and I have frequently had to take my little ones (or older ones) to a party that their sister had been invited to, but I always make sure that I kept the uninvited sibling well away from the party and fully occupied to not distract at all.
It is party organising time again and my DD wants her birthday in the same place and will again invite the same child as they are still really good friends. Am already slightly stressing over the same thing happening again. Problem is, I am not good friends with the Mum, just aquaintances, so it is a tricky one to broach. She will probably ask if she can bring the little one, and I will struggle to decide what to answer when she does.
Thankyou. Rant over.
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2kidsintow · 14/08/2011 23:46
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