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Mummysan1992 · 11/02/2021 14:01

Hello!

I’m in need of some advice as I’m truly torn on what advice to give my son. Who’s an adult.

My son has been dating a girl for 1 year and 3 months, she is very nice and gets one well with the whole family. My son loves her to bits and she does do a lot of nice things for him too.

3 months into their relationship she cheated on him, she spent time going over this “friends” house a lot and it caused them a lot of arguements. It came out about 3 months later that she had cheated which she confessed. And cut all contact with the friend. Started putting more effort in the relationship which as much as it hurt my son he decided to give it another go as she was honest about it and with new boundaries. And since to be fair to her, she went above and beyond. Cutting her “friend”out of her life and she really put her all into the relationship. And it’s been well and truly brilliant for them until just recently.

Now this is what concerns me, is she’s started talking to him again. My son has already brought his worry’s up with her about it and she has said that he has nothing to worry about she’s not going to stay round there again but she would like to be his friend again one day. My son feels he’s being disrespected and to be honest I agree, but he loves her and doesn’t want to give up on her yet. He’s going to try and talk it through again abit more seriously. Which is fine and understandable.

The whole reason that she’s doing this is selfishness IMO, clearly not thinking about how my son feels in all this. just screams to me I think he needs to end it, but it’s up to him at the end of the day and I’ll make sure he knows that. But I want to know what advice you would give? He’s coming to see me before the weekend and I want to offer the best advice I can. So all input would be greatly appreciated!

Many thanks Smile

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User48484w · 11/02/2021 22:26

I think your son just has to be honest that he doesn't want to feel uncomfortable.

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BunnyRuddington · 11/03/2021 23:02

Has he told her that he's not happy with her going over to this friends house?

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