Just learnt my son who is 22 has been smoking for months. Yes, yes he's an adult, but he's also currently unemployed (due to covid) and gets financial support from all family members while he's wasting money on smokes. He pays no rent (only ever paid once which I know is my fault), but recently he's had his MOT paid for him which cost £500, his food bought for him and anything else he needs. He gets UC and that is meant to keep
Petrol in his car and food but as a parent and doing what a parent does and helps wherever possible I feel a tad mugged off 'cause I wouldn't be helping if he knew he was wasting money on tobacco.
I lost my shit tonight because he has asthma and I really feel annoyed because he lied to me and I genuinely thought we had a good relationship. I smelt it on him months ago and explained that it was unfair that he wastes his money on that shit when i am supporting him and he agreed and apologised, seems that meant nothing. I am really disappointed. It could be worse, drugs etc... I think it's also because he knows I really struggle financially and I always go without for him while he is affording to smoking.
I don't know if I SHOULD be annoyed or I'm overreacting?
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sugartipss · 14/01/2021 00:21
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