Deciding on a second

[Sunshinemum12]

Hi there,
Wondering if I can please get some advice from mums with older kids here...I'm 36 and DH is 44. Not being maternal we left it quite late to try for a baby. 11 months ago we had our DD and I'm totally smitten and the maternal instinct really kicked in! After the initial tough months, I finally feel like I'm managing ok and still have time with DH at the end of the day, we are a very happy family of 3. DH has a very demanding job with very long days and normally travels throughout the year so feel lucky that DH was home this year to help out. We have no extended family here. I feel like I need to give DD a sibling soon (due to our age) as I worry she will be lonely on her own??? But also worry that by doing so it may break me, cause lots more stress and damage my relationship with DH (he is not fussed either way about having another but 'feels old'). Also aware that if I have a second DH won't be home in the way he was this year so it will be a totally different experience. Just wondering if any other mums out there have raised 2 with a hubby who works away a lot and no family nearby? Are the tough times worth it for giving your child a sibling or would you suggest I stick with one. Sorry for the super long message, any insights much appreciated!

[JingleJohnsJulie]

Sorry OP but I wouldn't be having another baby to provide company for DD.

Unless you both really want another baby that is.

[Pipandmum]

Sounds like you should stop at one. Having a sibling is no guarantee that they will get on.

[Sunshinemum12]

Thank you @JingleJohnsJulie and @Pipandmum really appreciate your advice. I'm one of two and while my sibling and I get on we're not exactly close. Think I'll mull it over a while longer! X

[JingleJohnsJulie]

I'm not all that close to my Dsis either.

[legalseagull]

I've done what you want OP. I have 15 months between my two. So my DD was only 6 months old when I got pregnant the second time. They're now 3 and 2. Yes it was bloody hard. I was so exhausted I got illness after illness. HOWEVER I don't regret it for a second and I doubt you would either. They're adorable together and now they're older it's getting easier. Think long term, not just the first year. What do you want in 5/10 years time? One child, or two