And more to the point, how are you?
My DD, 22, returned from uni mid lockdown. Finished her degree, obtained a first, all great. However, she seems to be struggling to adapt to the realities of life at the moment.
She’s applying for grad schemes in a particular field but no joy so far and they are all such lengthy processes, not to mention the number of candidates. This is really getting her down. However, she has been given a job on a temporary basis in a related field which is an opportunity lots of young people don’t have. Whilst she seems to appreciate her good luck here, it’s a very administrative role and seems to bore her rigid, resulting in fairly endless moaning which is wearing me down.
So, it’s just the two of us at home, both wfh, me in a pretty senior role. I’m struggling to know how to respond to her seemingly endless worries at the moment. It feels like she has set herself extremely high expections of the perfect job, car, flat etc and is coming down to earth with a bump. We had tears again last night over something pretty minor and I’m torn between empathetic and giving her a bit of a talking to!
Before anyone asks, I don’t think she is depressed. Probably a bit on the anxious side (as am I) but she’s motivated, exercises regularly, has good contact with friends as far as is currently possible.
I honestly don’t think I’ve raised her in the expectation that she will over achieve but I’m at a loss as to how to help her at the moment.
Any thought appreciated.
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50teen · 23/10/2020 13:55
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