I feel terrible about this, but my kids are wearing me out and I dream about moving away, not far, two hours tops.
They are 20 and 25. The 25 year old is married, employed, pregnant with her first and after an exceedingly difficult teenage hood is somewhat settled. She has a bad habit of lying about things though, so I never know what to believe with her and it’s exhausting me. She catastrophises in her head then tells me the worst case scenario as if it’s fact, so I get stressed then slowly it becomes apparent it was only 1/4 as bad she said.
My younger one is in first year university. He’s a lovely guy, helpful and polite and honest and working hard at university, has a nice girlfriend. He lives with me. He has never handled stress well and when in his last year at school got very depressed and plummets back down there from time to time. He’s finding distanced Ed university difficult (& not worth the money) & is feeling like he’s not got close friends. Periodically he’ll have a best friend and then it sort of fades out, I’m not sure why (I always had friends so haven’t been able to be much help to my kids in their search for a tribe). Having said that, he’s actually got loads of friends, they just live in different cities, some in other countries.
I’m just finding their emotional load is too much after spending most of their lives raising them on my own. They are technically adults and though I’d miss them the idea of not worrying about them daily sounds quite nice. The younger one did a gap year and I sort of worried, but mostly assumed he was fine.
Am I terrible? Should I move away in a couple of years? I’m feeling old and very tired from work and would like to come home and put my feet up and relax.
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Ritascornershop · 17/10/2020 01:50
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