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Son struggling with uni....(4 Posts)
My 19yr old son started uni recently.
We decided that he'd stay quite local as he suffers with depression and anxiety. This way we could get to him quickly if he needed us.
He had another "episode" recently and has been put on medication (we have another couple of weeks before we'll see any kind of difference) and was advised to seek help from the uni support services (mental health team said they couldn't do more as he'd only just started his meds but gave us a list of numbers we could call if needed).
Anyway he's now talking about leaving uni (not sure if this is a permanent thing or a gap year scenario) but I don't know where we stand with his accommodation and student finance.
This is yey another thing that will worry and stress him so I'm trying to find out as much as I can so when we meet to talk I can help him make informed decisions.
Anyone else been in this situation?
Hello JBEM - you might want to re-post in the Higher Education thread as there are lots of kids this happens to. My DD left after Christmas in her first year and went back the year after. When you leave makes a big difference - if she had left before Christmas then the fees were 25%, after it was 40%. Also if he is in uni accommodation then there might be a notice period of about 8 weeks or more - you could give notice now in case he wants to leave, and simply cancel if he decides to stay. If he does want to go back, and he can show with a GP letter that it was for health reasons, he will get another years' funding. It's hard for him but not uncommon.
I think it happens a lot and the unis are used to dealing with it . Maybe contact them ..ask . Has your son been to student support services .. may help ? Practically and emotionally ?
Yes , the time of leaving does impact on finances so best to address .
Has he got a Personal Academic Tutor? This person should be his first point of call and should be able to point him towards more expert support. Remind him that while academics are obviously not experts in MH they are very used to this situation as such, his tutor will not find it weird or scary or think any less of him. MH issues (like cancer or arthritis) affect a large portion of the population and this is a very common life stage for them to surface. His tutor is probably dealing with several other students at the same time. They should have a list of the support available and be able to provide a listening ear themselves. It's part of their professional role.