Another similar question to a recent thread.
DSD is off to Uni this year and living at home with her mum for the first year.
We will of course help out with essential purchases. Books, tech, parking fees near uni, living costs in her mums home.
DSD seems to have wild expectations of what she needs to live on and insists it's not enough. We've heard estimates of £600 a month to be at uni, when we break it down, petrol will cost her £100 max and we've paid for her car already.
On the flip side, "living costs" to her seem to be eating out every day, buying more clothes than she'll ever wear and eyebrow tints, gel nails and Russian eyelashes. That's £100+ on beauty treatments that I can't even justify whilst working full time. She regularly goes to clubs and drinks cocktails at £10 a pop.
She works 3 evenings a week and we've offered her a couple of days a week looking after the dog whilst she studies. I'd pay her what I pay the daycare company. It's win win for her, she can study whilst getting paid. But she can't commit to when she'll be free so won't help us out there.
So. My question is, whilst uni students are living at home with you what's the expectation of support? Apparently we're being unfair in not giving her money to go out and spend in the student bar, and we've said her allowance will now need to go towards something tangible so that she can start to learn how to budget in preparation for living out of home next year.
Until she winds in her lifestyle to a level that isn't beyond our own means we refuse to fund it.
I should add she'd not taken a student loan for this year and doesn't want to work any more than she already does. And she won't sit and work out a sensible budget with us so we're at a bit of a standoff
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Dollyparton3 · 05/09/2019 13:42
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