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How to repair relationship with my son

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dippydc · 26/05/2019 23:51

My son turned 18 in January 2019. We have always been a tight family. His sister is 17mths older and we have always been great communicators, honest and stuck together but my son left the home in Sept last year and refuses to communicate. I have stop trying to understand and just evolve.
I am letting him live his life and learn some lessons but when should I start to rebuild our relationship. I don't know how to stay connected and any ideas on way to reach out and let him know I care, occasionally. And when and how should I go about fixing it

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WatcherintheRye · 26/05/2019 23:57

What prompted him to leave? I imagine this will have a huge bearing on how you attempt a reconciliation.

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Paperdolly · 27/05/2019 00:00

Be the ‘adult/parent’ and never stop communicating. If you can send an open note or the occasional post card to keep the link open he can’t deny you don’t love him.

He may come round someday as he hasn’t lost the link. I feel for you, x 💐

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SapatSea · 30/08/2019 19:27

Join up with him on Whats app and send him messages a few times a week, links to funny/interesting things. even if he doesn't replay. Invite him to meet up for a "quick" coffee/lunch (on neutral ground), meet up for a walk , cinema (whatever you used to like to do). Just short meetups and babysteps.

Like others have said just keep communication line sopen let him know you love and are thinking of him.

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Drabarni · 30/08/2019 19:30

Yes, communicate through any social media he is on.
Make your first message very friendly just in case the situation means he will block communication.

I'd be straight to the point, you want to be able to contact him but appreciate his privacy and that your door is open to him, how you miss him but understand he may not be ready. etc.

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Drabarni · 30/08/2019 19:31

Above all, tell him how much you love him

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