My divorced daughter is in her late forties. She is living in my spare room with her son. I have chronic illness and finding it very stressful. I am supposed to try new medication that requires staying as calm as possible and have been putting it off. Without going into detail she has been mentally abusive in the past, which was worse when she was married She has a new man who is homeless (illegally living in a stable on land she bought in his name). They are waiting for planning permission which has been rejected twice but are persevering - their argument is the council is in the wrong and biases. I have been told she may be at my home indefinitely because buying an apartment or renting is "not an option". She does not contribute to bills and I am having to pay the extra because "that's what parents do." My husband does whatever she wants to keep the peace.
My biggest concern right now is I opened a bill by mistake and she owes £400 in electricity as she has not paid the bills at her last rental. She does have savings but will not use them as she needs them to build a house. I have not opened other mail.
Of course I love my daughter very much but she has never been good with money and while her boyfriend is nice enough he is a bit of a wheeler dealer. I don't trust him or the decisions they are making. She is making bad decisions and been very cruel in the past. It is hard to forget that.
My other daughter wants me to come and live with her and I am now scared that all these unpaid bills may blacklist my address and make it hard for me to sell?
Any advice very welcome!
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Smith888 · 26/05/2019 09:43
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