Would you continue to take and pay for college child to go on holiday?(40 Posts)
Or is there a cut off point, 18 years old for example?
Planning a family holiday but been telling my oldest all year to get a job (she's in college) so she can go on her own holidays with friends etc... Trying to teach her life lessons and earning her own money.
Also same question for mobile phone contract thinking of cutting it off when it's due for renewal in December.
She is 18
For reference I've never really gone on holiday as a child/ teenager as my parents couldn't afford it. Whereas we took our kids every year/ ever other year.
She might want to come depending on destination but I'm not sure if we should continue paying for her when she is an adult?
Hope this doesn't sound strange!
DD, almost 18, buys most of her own clothes now. We still pay for phone. If I don't take her on hols in future it's b/c she doesn't like same types of hols as us. My dad still pays for me when we travel... he also paid for his own mom, often. Likes being generous.
I have paid for my dc when I have particularly wanted them to come- e.g. to meet ageing grandparents or because I really wanted their company.
I appreciate that having my 19yo son with me on a trip abroad to his grandparents is a luxury- for me. He wouldn't demand to be taken, I am grateful he wants to come. And aware that he is partly coming to make me happy. Probably won't last very long, having him here is a privilege.
When we return home, he will be getting a job, paying a contribution at home and doing his part of the household chores. He is an independent, perfectly capable adult. But being an adult also involves choosing your own holiday destination, and I am very aware that this is not what he might have chosen first.
I’m in my 40s and my parents still pay for us to go on holiday with them.
Dd has just turned 18 and is in college. She’s on a 3 year course so will leave when she’s 19, almost 20. I see it as my job as a parent to provide her with the essentials of food, clothes, phone, toiletries, essential college books & equipment, roof over her head and transport. She’s a member of the family the same as her younger brother. I like the fact she still likes to spend time with us on holiday.
The only thing I don’t do is to give her pocket money as she now has a Saturday job. She earns £50 & £10 of that goes on train. She’s lucky that she has a job related to what she’s studying that pays well. Lazy year she earns £15 for the same number of hours. I’d prefer her not to do more hours so she can concentrate on college.
Holidays with us, we pay. If they go away without us, they pay.
We had an expensive long haul holiday last year and asked the DCs to pay for their own vaccinations, and rucksacks etc (to which we gave a contribution). We paid everything else.
Phones - we give them a set amount each year for student maintenance, and everything including phones comes our of this.
If the OP’s dd hasn’t yet turned 18 she’ll be in the same school/college year as my dd so won’t be getting Student Finance or anything.
Some students can cope with a part time job as well as studying, it depends on their workload (A levels/Btec etc). I’d prefer dd to concentrate on getting the best grades she can and having a social life.
I would pay. I even pay for them to go on holiday with their mates. But I am a soft touch and I can afford it.
We took ours with us until they finished FT education (so end of uni for all of them) and still offer the chance to come on some holidays with their partners even now they are grown up and married. That is because we love their company though
I agree with pink heart. While my son was studying I supported him as he worked v hard and I wanted him to focus on that. Of course I would want an 18 year old to feel welcome if they wanted to come on holiday, like any child of the family. I wouldn't dream of saying they can't come if don't pay.
I think that later in life they'll help me if needed/take me on holiday, so it's just my time now, and may be theirs later.
Yes I would take them on holiday, I’d expect a part time job to pay the phone contract though
We have told eldest DD1 21 that once she finishes uni and has a full time job she has to pay half of her share when we go on a family holiday.
I know this was a while ago but I actually think you're being very harsh, she's in college. She should be focusing on her work as it's full time hours where as when she's actually at uni she is more likely to be able to fit a part time job in. On that note, I hope you already know that if she does go to uni her loan will be based on your household income and you will be expected to top it up. It's also all well and good saying the child benefit money is for a house deposit but if it's her savings then it's not your decision what it is used for once she is 18.
Yes of course I would and do.I value and love their company and they can’t afford to go where I want to go.
My son is 18 (working full time for a year before university 2020). As soon as he started working I stopped his allowance. He pays for his own petrol etc (but not keep as he is saving to go travelling in January). We will take him on holiday with us anywhere we go as we love his company!
Dd is 21 at uni and we pay for inclusion in family holidays, phone contract and top up for loans. It's financially draining but I don't see an alternative.
If she was 18 and ft college I'd pay - if she was working ft and living at home I wouldn't.
Mine are 18 and 22, still come away with us (bring their partners), and will I hope continue to for a long time! When I’m old perhaps I’ll be invited on their family holidays with their children.. only if I’m wanted! Seriously though, I’m so happy they still want to come with us. I love their company!
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