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Advice please, possible start of trying to steal identity

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youngemptynesters · 27/04/2019 17:22

We think our estranged daughter ( 28 years old, hasn’t spoken to us in over two years) maybe trying to steal our identity to get a loan or credit.
Brief history, she was never good with money, always in debt , and last time we spoke we had just paid off 10k of her debt, the she stopped talking to us because we wouldn’t give her anymore money.
Out of the blue she has just got in touch, very brief unemotional emails.
She has asked for our new address as she needs for work, some CRB check.
She has just had a second granddaughter (we have never been involved or seen the first one).
She claims she needs a copy of our birth certificate to apply for the new babies passport. Checked on the gov website and that is not true.

We are suspicious due to previous money issues, like using our credit cards, trying to take money from our account.
Plus asking for this info isn’t needed.
Plus , I believe, if she has address , date of birth, birth certificate , this info could be used to steal identify for loans, credit etc.

So are we being mad, too suspicious, ?

Any advice , or guidance appreciated.

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blackcat86 · 27/04/2019 17:40

You're not being mad at all and I would not be giving her that information. She doesn't need it. I have an 8 month old and DH went to register her birth with no other documentation except her hospital transfer notes (to prove her had a baby).

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blackcat86 · 27/04/2019 17:43

*we had a baby

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Bromeliad · 27/04/2019 19:01

She needs info off your birth certificates to apply but not a copy. Just send her your places of birth as written on the certificates and that's all she'll need, we've just done this for our baby.

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Bromeliad · 27/04/2019 19:09
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rosedream · 29/04/2019 06:25

That must hurt a lot that she is trying to do this. I'm so sorry. But yes I think she probably is trying to get money using your identity.

There is no reason to need a parents birth certificate.

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Fairylea · 29/04/2019 06:35

I think if she really wanted to she can just order a copy for herself anyway. I may be wrong but she just needs your details and can order one.

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MaybeitsMaybelline · 29/04/2019 06:42

I think you need to check your credit report regularly and see if any new searches come up for finance companies.

I use ClearScore.

She wouldn’t need your current address for a CRB check unless it was something like the police or MoD would she?

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SunshineSpring · 29/04/2019 06:55

If your daughter doesn't have a British passport, and was born after 1983, Grandparents details are required for a first passport.

I do t know about the CRB but tho.

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stucknoue · 29/04/2019 07:48

There's no crb now (it's dbs) so a bit suspicious, she'll only need addresses she personally has lived at. For passports however grandparents are sometimes required if she doesn't have a passport herself and isn't British

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cockadoodledooooo · 29/04/2019 07:50

Just ignore the emails. Get a monthly cope of your Experian credit report too and keep an eye on any applications etc.

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Lwmommy · 29/04/2019 07:52

Ive just filled out a security check for work that needed

my Parents date of birth
Occupations
Addresses for last 5 years

So if she is getting an enhanced check done that is possible.

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FamilyOfAliens · 29/04/2019 07:54

Was going to say there hasn’t been such a thing as CRB for several years now - it’s DBS. The fact she’s using the wrong term would be raising alarm bells for me.

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UCOinanOCG · 29/04/2019 07:54

How would she need the address if she has never lived there? You only need to state the places you have actually lived.

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blackcat86 · 29/04/2019 07:56

@Fairylea is right. Anyone can order a copy of your birth certificate so it's worth signing up to a site like noodle or clear score to keep an eye on any activity on your credit report

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Tiredtessy · 29/04/2019 08:16

Why would she need your passports for her baby? The grandparents details aren’t needed for grandchildren’s passports, a lot of new babies don’t have grandparents due to death or NC!

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Fatted · 29/04/2019 08:21

I need my parents and my in laws details for my work vetting, so it could be true.

But you know what she's like and what she's got form for doing. If it's ringing alarm bells, don't give her the details.

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