Stranger at Home

[Karen4775]

I moved in with my partner about 18 months ago, he was widowed about 8 years ago which was tragic in itself. His kids were 10 and 15 at the time. So they'd been on their own since then. Then I came along, doh had liked me for a couple of years but was very shy and I just wanted to look after him. I know now that he's certainly not shy and we laugh about it now. He made the comment last night, that the younger one is so much happier since I've been around, the house is full of wonderment and its like I've sprinkled fairy dust around the place which was lovely to know. We are happy.

The trouble comes with the elder one of the two. He lives abroad for 6-8 months of the year but comes back in October until February, its during this time I'm made to feel like a stranger at home. I come in from work and rarely get acknowledged. I'm made to feel like I'm in the way. Someday's I feel like I'm making progress and he'll actually talk, but then will blank me. I'm getting fed up with the attitude. When I've spoken to his dad about it i get, oh its just his way. I do get upset, I haven't done anything wrong. I can't wait until he goes away and I feel guilty for it. We're all going away for Christmas half of me is soo looking forward to it, the other half I'm dreading it. Am I just whinging? If anyone's been in a similar situation I'd be grateful for any advice. Thanks K

[cushioncuddle]

He is probably feeling the same too. How old is he ?
Can your partner have a chat with him.
Just keep. Ring nice. But you can ask him if he's ok or what's he feeling.

[flumpybear]

Can you talk to the child (adult) about it? 23 is still very young, you may need to lead and calmly find out the problem? He probably misses his mum poor thing? Big rift when that happens as a kid