Daughter moved in with boyfriend & his family & we have been disowned

[mammasmadhouse]

My 23 year old daughter moved in with her boyfriend and his family, she lives locally but most of the time chooses not to keep in touch. We normally see/hear from her when she wants/needs something.
If I text or ring, I am lucky if I get a reply, although she never answers call. Her younger sister, desperately misses her sister and again, is lucky if she responds to a message. So we all really try to keep in contact and make sure she is ok etc. She tags her b/f's mom in lots of things on facebook etc & has said how much she loves being there. We have met the b/f once, invited them to tea numerous times but just get excuses. Where am I going wrong we have supported her through thick & thin...

[Accountant222]

I too, have been disowned, your family maybe a lot closer than mine, I no longer have anxiety when the adult DS starts drinking. So far I'm good with it all.

[Weezol]

What would happen if you stopped contacting her and hid her social media for a week or two?

Would she notice? Would it give you a break?

[Veganfortheanimals]

My daughter did the same at age 19.. it passes ,it's just the novelty of somewhere new,don't stress ,just give her some space to be an adult ,then suggest lunch and shopping in a couple of weeks..

[whosaidthat6]

Same happened with ours. Met a bad boy, moved in with him. She sided with his family, he then drained her financially and got her into a financial mess.

10 terras later, she woke up, left him. Trouble is, she's moved back in with us now and we don't live how she lives.

Causes problems, but she needs to pay off all the debt he built up in her name before starting again.

A whole decade of her life wasted.

What can you do?

[summacummamumma]

There must be more to this? Did anything happen? Did you show disapproval of her bf or her life? Have you been controlling and she needed an escape?

[mammasmadhouse]

summacummamumma I wish I knew, I have asked what the problem is and been told nothing. We have supported her through thick and thin, so I am just not sure what it is and always tried to be open and honest. But contact is always on her terms ie when she needs something. I just keep hoping that the old saying that no matter how much it kills you to see them go, you have to let go, for them to come back.